Unmotivated reader feels stuck in a rut

Dear Harriette: I feel like nothing is going right in my life. I am busy with work, which is good, but it just feels like a treadmill. I get up, and it seems like the week whizzes by. I don’t do anything much for fun. My husband and I live in the same house but barely talk to each other. My life is boring and just … nothing.

I listen to my co-workers talk about the fun things that they did on the weekend or after work. I do nothing. I’m beginning to think that my life isn’t worth it. Like, what am I working so hard for if I never to anything interesting? I think this is an unhealthy state of mind, but I don’t quite know what to do next. — Unmotivated

Dear Unmotivated: The moment of awareness is when you can do something about it. Take stock of your interests. If you ever had hobbies, what were they? What did you do for fun? Can you resume one of those activities now? Especially if those interests could involve other people, go for it. For example, I used to crochet a lot. I would go to certain yarn shops and sit with others who knitted or crocheted for company. Those types of engagements are starting again. Look for like-minded gatherings.*

Invite your husband out on a date. Break up the monotony of your household routine. Coax him out to do fun things with you that take you out of the house and out of your comfort zones with the goal of simply having fun.

You can also find a therapist to help you sort through your thoughts and feelings. Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@ harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.