Show Love, Kindness In Every Situation

There is no situation in your life that love cannot change.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

Back in college I had a history professor everyone loved. His name was Dr. Auffenberg. (Yes, I think Dr. was his first name. He was that smart.)

Doc Auf, as we would affectionately call him, (also Auffenberg took a long time to say and Dr. Auf reminded us of the Spider-man villain) was what you might call a “push-over professor.” His classes were always notoriously easy. Tests were open book. He gave essay assignments months ahead of time. And a neat feature, quizzes were community quizzes.

But there was a mischievous side to Doc Auf. On one test a semester he would make it extremely hard. He would never tell us which test it would be, so we always had to study for each one. Sometimes people were caught off guard. Doc Auf’s easygoing nature and fun classroom atmosphere built up a reputation of a blowoff class and then suddenly, Bam! A 200 question fill-in the blank test with an essay at the end.

On these test days, Doc Auf would suspend the community rules and anyone caught discussing their answers automatically failed the test.

I helped out in the history department sometimes and I always knew when Doc Auf gave one of these tests. There was a line of students going around the hallway waiting to see him. And they were all mad.

One day after hearing all sorts of comments from students about taking him to the college board or dropping the class, I asked Doc Auf why he did the hard test day.

“People love you,” I said. “Now you have a whole line of students waiting to argue with you.”

Doc Auf smiled and said, “I know, Troy. But’s that’s why I do it. So they will come see me.”

You see, Doc Auf wasn’t the kind of professor who just had you in class and couldn’t remember your name. He wanted to be actively involved with his students’ lives. When one of the angry ones would come in, the first thing he asked them was, “How are you doing in school? Do you need any help or anyone to talk to?”

By the time the conversation was over, Doc Auf would send a happy student away with the name of a counselor or an administrative advisor or student aid contact.

At the end of the semester, he’d always round the test grade up so no one got a failing grade. But there was that suspense for a while. And, his students always studied hard for his tests.

I think in life we need more people like Doc Auf. Especially when we’re mad. People who would listen and care and help and advise. People who err on the side of grace and show kindness in the midst of diversity. Sound familiar? That’s the kind of person God is calling you to be.

So this day take a moment to be involved in someone’s life in a positive way. Show them love, in every situation. Let us pray. Dear God, we come to you this day with happy hearts. We are filled with joy because we know You love us. We ask for opportunities to spread that joy to those around us. In Christ’s name we pray. Amen.

PASTOR TROY CONRAD IS MINISTER OF THE FARMINGTON UNITED METHODIST CHURCH.