DEAR ABBY:

I am going through a rough divorce. I’ll spare you the details, but suffice it to say, I had to get an order of protection against my soon-to-be ex. I originally intended to keep my husband’s last name because we have a child together and I want my last name to be the same as my child’s. The thing is, Abby, I’m so disgusted with his behavior that the thought of keeping his last name makes me sick to my stomach. What should I do? —SINGLE SOON IN OHIO DEAR SINGLE SOON: Many parents have different names than their children. If keeping your almost-ex-husband’s last name makes you sick to your stomach now, in a few years you may have a major case of indigestion. Change your name when the divorce is final because the longer you wait to do it, the more complicated it may become. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. For an excellent guide to becoming a better conversationalist and a more sociable person, order “How to Be Popular.” Send your name and mailing address, plus check or money order for $7 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby, Popularity Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. (Shipping and handling are included in the price.)