Avoid unholy alliances in relationships
A SURGE in crimes of passion continues to dominate our media channels.
It’s something which needs urgent attention.
Respect, care and faith seem to be lacking among modern day couples.
It’s evident that some of the partners tend to give it their all once they fall in love.
Love comes with emotions, and a lot of commitment, which need to be managed.
In love, partners need to give room for disappointment.
While love is sweet, we must know our limits.
Failure to take heed of this has seen some of the people losing their lives after being ditched by their partners.
Others are now serving jail terms after doing the unthinkable when they were ditched or cheated by their partners.
On November 4, we carried a sad story involving a 16-year-old Hatcliffe girl, who allegedly stabbed her boyfriend to death, after being caught with another man.
The now deceased was believed to be paying her rentals.
The teenager, who has since been arrested, is now regretting ever stabbing her lover.
She was also saved from instant mob justice by the police, which reacted swiftly.
While the girl is now in custody, her case should provide a reminder that we need to avoid unholy unions.
One of the big issues, which have arisen, is how these men were sleeping with a 16-year-old who, in terms of the law, is not expected to consent to any sexual activity?
What comes out clearly is that they were raping her.
It’s also high time men should learn to be responsible and take time before choosing partners.
In many cases, men tend to invite trouble by dating women of questionable sanity.
Courtship is always important before falling in love.
Couples should study each other during courtship.
It is during this time where couples need to understand each other.
By doing so, this can help in creating healthy relationships.
A healthy affair is built on faith, trust and honesty.
However, this seems to be lacking among the couples of today, who are driven by the love of money and lust.
Once the relationship is unsustainable, it should be ended forthwith to avoid complications which come with forced matters.
In cases where such rocky relationships can be mended, we need to engage counsellors to help us.
These counsellors come in the form of elders, or those who have seen it all.
Young people need to learn from the elders about how they have managed to hang on in love relationships.
Love relationships are always complicated and it’s something we should always expect and have a way of dealing with it.
It’s about managing our emotions and actions and respecting the other party so that it also provides us with similar respect.
Most of the couples tend to live a lie and this creates real problems.