Violence not a solution

HAVE seen several videos of men beating up their wives’ boyfriends when they catch them in a compromising position with their spouses.

Why do men turn to violence against those who are meeting the needs of their wives instead of returning their wives to the in-laws? It boggles the mind.

I do not condone adultery. However, for one’s wife to accept the proposal for a relationship with another man, it means she is willing to take her love elsewhere.

One brother shared a song which goes: “There is no man who can get your love, unless your woman lets him.”

The natural reaction is to beat up the person getting the cookie from your wife.

But after beating up the lover, will your wife repent and start giving you total love?

I always have this question after watching these social media videos where bitter men vent their anger on their wives’ boyfriends, but rarely on their wives.

Is this a new trend or it is something that is emerging in our society?

Does violence solve the root cause of adultery by the wife in the first place?

Or men just cannot hold themselves where their shortcomings in their marriages are evidenced in their wives’ mischief ?

Someone once argued that no man knows how they will react if they got home to find their wife being intimate with another man.

I also do not know, but beating up the boyfriend is not the best solution.

How about just walking away and seek help.

Are we men failing in our marital duties that our women are considering outside help, especially on bedroom issues?

It is high time as men we became responsible.

We have our weaknesses so we should seek help.

Patriarchy is being challenged.

Precious Shumba