My husbands treats me like a dog

I CHEATED on my husband a month ago and now he is treating me like a dog. He no longer listens to me and comes home late. We used to have crazy sex every day, now he does not even look at me even when I am naked. When I am sick he does not take care of me like he used to.

My girlfriend does not want me to see her completely naked and when we are having sex she does not remove her top. This is frustrating me. What is she hiding? — Reply It’s imperative that you talk to your girlfriend. Be careful not to criticise or accuse her of anything, but gently ask if she is embarrassed about her body or has suffered any unpleasant sexual experiences in the past. It could be that she has mental or even physical scars. Make it clear that you like her enormously and you need to know where the problems lie so that you can empathise and, hopefully, help. Sadly, if she is really not interested in opening up, you have to decide whether you are willing to give her more time. You need to consider your own sexual satisfaction and level of commitment in this relationship, too.

During sex I don’t get wet enough and my boyfriend and I end up bruised on our sexual organs. I have also never experienced an orgasm. Reply Your dry vagina can be caused by not being aroused enough before sex or not wanting sex at all. Your man might be penetrating you before you are ready or maybe you are stressed. Maybe you are taking certain birth control contraceptives that cause dryness such as the Pill and Depo-Provera. Having an infection can also cause this. You could visit a doctor to find out what is wrong with you. In the meantime you can use lubrication to make yourself wet so that you avoid the painful sex you are having. As for the orgasm, every woman’s experience of an orgasm is different. While some women experience powerful orgasms that feel like clear events, other women experience orgasms that are quite mild. Nearly all women appear to be capable of experiencing an orgasm, but it can take some time, practice and exploration — alone and/or with a partner — to develop some ease with orgasm.

Is it safe to have sex when pregnant? I am a woman aged 20 and I am pregnant. Reply It is very safe to have sex when you are pregnant. But I am not surprised that you think your partner is going to harm the baby by thrusting into you. In fact, you might find out that your sex drive is higher than ever at this time (I hope I am right). Reassure him that the baby is protected and you could try some gentle positions that don’t seem dangerous. In your second trimester you should have a good sense of wellbeing and be blooming, and you will know that your baby has made it through the stage where the risk of miscarriage is highest. As your belly expands though, you might both need to get more creative with your positions. Sex can even help reduce pressure on your lower back and plenty of women say pregnancy improves their sex life! There are exceptions, of course, and it’s always worth checking out with your doctor. For instance if you know you have a risk of bleeding, you have a history of miscarriage, are expecting more than one baby or you feel pain while urinating. Don’t be surprised if you feel that you prefer to be intimate without having sexual intercourse. Many women become more interested in sensual arousal and want to enjoy touch and foreplay, and it’s also normal to feel uncomfortable about having sex when you are pregnant. People are not the same — we are different.