Of mar­riage pro­pos­als, en­gage­ments:

. . . the ef­fort men put to get a ‘yes’

The Herald (Zimbabwe) - - Front Page - Tafadzwa Zi­moyo Se­nior Life­style Writer

THE story of how a mar­riage was ini­ti­ated is one a cou­ple wears on their sleeves for the rest of their lives.

Un­like in the old times where pro­pos­als used to hap­pen in pri­vate, tech­nol­ogy has in­volved more peo­ple in the pro­cesses.

For the past months, so­cial me­dia had pic­tures of love­birds show­ing mar­riage pro­pos­als and en­gage­ments.

Whether it is strat­egy or co­in­ci­dence, some lovers have been lucky to gain pop­u­lar­ity and sub­se­quent do­na­tions to aid their im­pend­ing cer­e­monies.

“Will you marry me?”

Count­less girls are wait­ing for their mate to pop this very ques­tion, and the men are freak­ing out over how they will ask.

Some of the best mar­riage pro­pos­als are sweet and sim­ple, and oth­ers are so elab­o­rate it’s hard to plan a wed­ding that can ac­tu­ally top the ex­cite­ment of the big ques­tion.

For gents it is true that once you’ve find the love of your life, you have to know the per­fect words to say when you go down on one knee.

The only thing left be­fore pop­ping the ques­tion is pick­ing the best place to pro­pose.

Not to pile on the pres­sure, but your en­gage­ment story is one that will likely be shared for years to come with friends and fam­ily — and strangers, too! — so if ever there was a time to up the romance fac­tor, it’s now.

Again, back in the days or still the issue of en­gage­ment is much of a sur­prise thing or most to say, be­liev­able in the white com­mu­nity, as ac­cord­ing to some law, the rule of en­gage­ment should last not more than six months be­fore the wed­ding.

Grow­ing up, love birds were known to go and sub­mit their to­ken (nhumbi) from a boy to the girl’s aunt and it was much a re­spectable issue com­pared to now, where love birds go on with their plans in the pres­ence of friends.

Who is to blame on such predica­ment ?

Do we still have the “tetes” or they have been re­placed by so­cial me­dia?

Imag­ine, find­ing out about your daugh­ter’s pro­posal on so­cial me­dia, as a par­ent what would you do?

Here are some of the trendi­est en­gage­ment pro­pos­als sur­veyed by Satur­day

Her­ald Life­style, of which some of them, their sto­ries have been told.

Belinda Ny­oni and Makhosana Mguni

It is just the case that this cou­ple has be­come celebri­ties overnight. Their story is already on the pub­lic do­main after South African-based en­grav­ing spe­cial­ist Makhosana Mguni pro­posed to Belinda Ny­oni at a Chicken Inn out­let.

They later got the so­cial me­dia at­ten­tion as their picture went vi­ral re­sult­ing in well-wish­ers and some cor­po­rates not only con­grat­u­lat­ing them but started sup­port­ing, do­nat­ing to them ahead of their lobola and wed­ding set­tings.

For the cou­ple, it may ap­pear to be a bless­ing that many are be­ing gen­er­ous to­wards them.

How­ever, it ap­pears some brands may have got­ten ex­cite­ment and pledged good­ies de­spite hav­ing a ques­tion­able track record to de­liver.

We won’t dwell much on fake prom­ises and un­real pledges but Ny­oni said she was much sur­prised with the ges­ture taken by Makhosana.

“I wasn’t ex­pect­ing it, what we had planned on that day was to go for photo shoot after our meal. Like any girl I was happy and soon after, the pledges and re­sponses were awe­some,” she said.

Ny­oni said of all the pledges, she said they had agreed that Makhosana should pay lobola on his own as planned be­fore, not rely on spon­sors and donors.

“We had many well-wish­ers and Chicken Inn of­fered us wed­ding gifts. We are still to de­cide when to get mar­ried to­gether,” she said.

Asked about her dream wed­ding, what would she want it to look like con­sid­er­ing she has so many free­bies, she said she is still in shock and yet to de­cide what to work with.

The cou­ple got a do­na­tion of wed­ding gowns, cakes, groom and grooms­men suits, motor ve­hi­cles to use on the wed­ding day, food and décor among oth­ers. What is miss­ing is the ring, of which it is jus­ti­fied, the groom should fork out and buy the ring be­cause it should come from the heart.

The cou­ple said they pre­fer be­ing nor­mal peo­ple rather than the celebrity sta­tus they are be­ing given.

“We haven’t changed and we cer­tainly don’t see our­selves as celebri­ties. It’s just fun hav­ing all the at­ten­tion, frenzy and meet­ing peo­ple we haven’t met. It’s like a dream,” said Makhosana.

Well, just like how the en­gage­ment went vi­ral, many await the “royal-national” wed­ding as some had de­scribed it though the cou­ple pre­fer it to be sim­ple.

All eyes are on the pledges and what the cou­ple de­cides to go with.

Ob­vi­ous they can’t have five cakes on their wed­ding day, un­less they de­cide to move with the times.

Fin­gers still crossed.

Nunurai Ndawana and Ru­vimbo Gum­bonz­vanda

Just like the above men­tioned cou­ple, these too are not pop­u­lar but they got the pub­lic eye on their en­gage­ment day. The two have been dat­ing for six years and it took Ndawana to kneel down and ask for her hand in mar­riage.

This time, it was done on an 800m skywalk at the Mu­tarazi Falls in Nyanga.

Ndawana with the help of a tour guide recorded the mo­ments and later posted the video clip on so­cial me­dia.

The video went vi­ral on In­sta­gram and they be­came fa­mous.

“I en­joyed the ad­ven­ture in Nyanga. The place is so cool. I was walk­ing in front at the skywalk and when I was at the far end side of the long bridge, he called my name though scared and ner­vous at the same time I turned around and I saw that he was on one knee,” Gum­bonz­vanda said.

Ndawana said although his fi­ancée said yes, ini­tially that wasn’t the ac­tual plan for the event to take place.

“My first plan was to pro­pose in Vic­to­ria Falls but be­cause of some lo­gis­tics be­yond our con­trol, I ended up talk­ing to guys from Visit Zim­babwe in the plan­ning of ev­ery­thing. We took a long drive. So we got to the far end side and I pro­posed to her on our way back,” he said.

Ndawana said he can’t dis­close the to­tal amount of the pro­posal in­clud­ing the ring but only said he bought from Aurex Jew­ellery.

Nyasha Mushekwi and Arsema Ghe­bre­hi­wot

Chi­nese-based Zim­bab­wean foot­baller Nyasha Mushekwi got en­gaged to his stun­ning Swedish sweet­heart Arsema Ghe­bre­hi­wot. The cou­ple who had been on va­ca­tion within the Sey­chelles took a he­li­copter ride to one of the many In­dian Ocean is­land’s most stun­ning spots, sand­wiched be­tween moun­tains, for the en­gage­ment cer­e­mony.

Pho­tos have since emerged dis­play­ing Mushekwi on one knee and about to plant the en­gage­ment ring into the fin­ger of his Swedish sweet­heart.

Dif­fer­ent pho­tos of the love birds, with their arms locked to one an­other, hav­ing the time of their life in opposition to a back­drop of a as­ton­ish­ing water­fall are also awash on so­cial me­dia.

Varaidzo Nyaku­nika and Eliah

Model-cum mu­si­cian Varaidzo in June last year made head­lines after her boyfriend now hubby pro­posed to her at Sam Levy Vil­lage, Bor­row­dale.

Here is what she posted, “So this is how it hap­pened. Hav­ing been with this man for five years, I know how much he doesn’t en­joy be­ing around too many peo­ple es­pe­cially for spe­cial oc­ca­sions like his birth­day.

“So it was to­tal shock that he wanted to host our clos­est friends and fam­ily for lunch on his birth­day.

“That’s when I knew some­thing was up. He started talk­ing about hir­ing a videog­ra­pher to film the lunch. Ev­ery­one knows that Eliah stays as far away from cam­eras as pos­si­ble and this makes me more sus­pi­cious.

“On the day of the lunch, I was dressed up in one of my dresses, he told me to change and to wear white jeans and white shirt which I wasn’t too keen to wear but just be­cause it was his birth­day.

“We were seated hav­ing lunch and he went out­side and came back with dis­turb­ing call and told me to go out­side. I went out­side and his eyes were red and then, boom, he pro­posed with my mu­sic playing in the back­ground and big screen out­side with mes­sage,” read the post.

Nyasha Mushekwi and Arsema Ghe­bre­hi­wot

A man pro­poses mar­riage to his girl­friend dur­ing a va­ca­tion

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