Stop the hypocrisy

The Manica Post - - Opinion - Arthur Marara ◆ Arthur Marara is an At­tor­ney, Au­thor and Speaker. He is also the au­thor of the Per­sonal De­vel­op­ment Tool­kit. Send your feed­back to great­ness­clinic@gmail.com or +263772467255 (What­sapp)

THIS one will of­fend you, es­pe­cially if you are con­duct­ing your­self in the man­ner that I want to ad­dress be­low. This mes­sage is di­rected to ev­ery per­son who was born. Yes, you heard me right. This is for you, and the mes­sage is clearly fo­cus­ing on hypocrisy.

There are peo­ple who pre­tend that they do not have a back­ground and that at some point in time they were raised by some­one.

I am re­ally pas­sion­ate about the sub­ject of wel­fare of par­ents. This is the con­stituency of peo­ple of­ten ne­glected by many peo­ple when they grow up and many in­stances are well up.

It is also not sur­pris­ing for peo­ple to flaunt their wealth on so­cial me­dia and ne­glect the very same peo­ple who gave them life.

Some peo­ple even do­nate money to char­i­ties when their own par­ents have noth­ing.

Some are renowned “church givers” when they have never given their par­ents any­thing close to that. Some­times God is of­ten cited as the jus­ti­fi­ca­tion.

How does this God or­der you to ig­nore the very same peo­ple whom he used to raise you?

I won­der. This week I want to chal­lenge your con­science and re­mem­ber your par­ents. If you do not have bi­o­log­i­cal par­ents alive any­one who played a sig­nif­i­cant role in your life is your par­ent. Bless them!

#Be se­ri­ous

“A mother can take care of seven chil­dren, but seven chil­dren can fail to take care of 1 per­son”. I saw this quote and it pro­voked me to im­mense anger and thought. This is what many peo­ple are do­ing.

Chil­dren who have small houses that they are spoil­ing with ex­pen­sive gifts, iphones, cars, clothes, shop­ping vouchers, you name it, fail to take care of their own moth­ers in the ru­ral ar­eas who are lan­guish­ing in poverty.

I do not know what hap­pens to peo­ple; they be­come so ex­cep­tion­ally gen­er­ous when it comes to strangers, yet very in­hu­man and cruel when it comes to their own fam­i­lies.

You might have a bet­ter back­ground but that does not mean you have no role to play. Al­ways look for op­por­tu­ni­ties to min­is­ter and reach out to them. Tele­phone calls could mean a lot. Have you ever imag­ined the amount of time you spend on the phone with strangers, yet you do not even know how your mother is do­ing? Think se­ri­ously and think deep.

Take care of your fam­ily

“To all those who did noth­ing for their mums .... but con­trib­uted to­wards the Pas­tor or Prophet’s wife Mother’s day gift at church.

To­day ...... I pray your fuel runs out whilst driv­ing past the State House...” I think you might have an idea of what could hap­pen if you run out of fuel at this stage.

I do not usu­ally like shar­ing jokes on so­cial me­dia, but this one is not just a joke, but wis­dom couched in com­i­cal for­mat.

This is what many peo­ple do; they take care of other peo­ple and ne­glect their own fam­i­lies.

Noth­ing wrong with tak­ing care of “spir­i­tual moth­ers” and “spir­i­tual fa­thers” but ev­ery­thing wrong in hypocrisy of tak­ing care of them when your own par­ents are lan­guish­ing in prob­lems. Who do you want to take care of your fam­ily?

Any church that does not teach you to take care of your par­ents and your fam­ily is not a good church for you. In fact leave it! I said it!

Any Pas­tor who does not teach and re­mind you to go and take care of your fam­ily is not a good one. If you are a Pas­tor and read­ing this ar­ti­cle, chal­lenge your flock to go and bless their par­ents.

Even if those par­ents do not go to church, they are still par­ents. God used and chose them for that as­sign­ment.

Some peo­ple don’t even want to see church be­cause of what they see church peo­ple do.

I look for­ward to days when churches have par­ents’ day where they cel­e­brate par­ents in their pres­ence.

I pri­ori­tise my fam­ily in ev­ery as­pect, and in terms of time. I can­cel speak­ing en­gage­ments to go and see my mother and fam­ily.

I drove mid­night one day to Masvingo when I picked that my brother had been in­jured by a base­ball and suf­fered a frac­ture.

My mother had tried to hide this from me fear­ing that I would drive.

Who do I find at Mor­gen­ster that night, my mother next to my last born brother.

She was de­tained for the whole week­end un­til the boy was dis­charged af­ter be­ing de­tained.

I drove to Masvingo to speak to my last born brother be­fore the ex­am­i­na­tions. I speak to thou­sands of chil­dren and mo­ti­vate them to suc­cess. I also want those close to me to ben­e­fit first hand as well.

You did not fall from heaven This is the truth we are not em­pha­sis­ing. No mat­ter what ti­tle you are given, you did not fall from heaven.

There is some old woman who went through a lot for you to be where you are to­day.

Re­mem­ber her, and if she is not there, re­mem­ber who­ever took the role. I thank God that I have been able to reach out to many peo­ple through these ar­ti­cles, and live talks.

This is pos­si­ble be­cause of one woman who be­lieved in me, and stood with me through dif­fi­cul­ties. Now I am here!

De­cent lives, must pre­cede de­cent buri­als

For some weird rea­sons we value de­cent buri­als with­out con­sid­er­ing whether there was a de­cent life. Give your par­ent a de­cent life first, and hon­our them with a de­cent fu­neral when their time comes.

Fu­ner­als un­earth worst forms of hypocrisies, Chris­tians in­cluded, and we look smart and dress well to at­tend fu­ner­als of peo­ple we never cared for.

Do not speak vol­umes you never spoke dur­ing a per­son’s life time.

I have re­fused to spoil my mother in death; I want to spoil her in life. She does not have a driver’s li­cence; oth­er­wise she has a car of her own.

That was a Christ­mas gift I gave her last year in De­cem­ber. I took her to South Africa with my brother and asked her to choose a car she would want. I can­not do ev­ery­thing; I com­mit to do what I can!

One of my suc­cess se­crets, is I have a woman pray­ing for me daily be­cause I reach out to her.

To all sin­gle moth­ers There is no child with­out a fa­ther, but there is a fa­ther with­out a child. There are fa­thers who fa­ther and leave their chil­dren.

Any­one can be a fa­ther but it takes some­one spe­cial to be a “dad”. You might have been aban­doned, and left with chil­dren.

Take care of them no mat­ter how dif­fi­cult it might be. Show them a good ex­am­ple you would want them to live with. One day, your chil­dren will grow and be a bless­ing. Do not look for a “blesser”.

Let God be your “blesser” and work with your own hands. Happy mother’s day to all moth­ers in Zim­babwe and out­side.

Join me on Star FM on Wed­nes­days (09:30am-10:00am) for some mo­ments of in­spi­ra­tion on the Breeze with Tariro.

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