Dealing with last minute gremlins
What do you do when the unexpected threatens to blight your day?
NO MATTER what precautions you take, no matter how well you put together a good template for your wedding day, the unexpected can happen and what you do next can make or break the day. A wedding is meant to be a gorgeous celebration of love. The wedding party invest their time and effort and carefully choreograph every step to ensure the day is truly resplendent. No one wants surprises. Any sign of a mishap can be a source of anxiety and terror to both the bride and groom.
How do you stay in character when the unexpected happens on your big day?
The planning of any big event has its own demands and weights. In an ideal world, qualified professionals team up to share expertise on a project. Similarly, in the case of planning a wedding, wedding planners and consultants can be hired, however, it is usually the duty of the bride and to a lesser extent the groom, to plan a wedding.
Mind you, getting married does not necessarily make one a good manager or planner, and if we wanted to be brutally honest with ourselves, some of us would rather be at the party than plan it.
Nonetheless, even with slight abilities to organise, one still wants to take charge of “planning” their big day.
The hope and the prayer is that all will go well, except nothing is ever smooth, one should always leave room for fault. Wedding nightmares can be a steep descent. There are no storm clouds, no early warning to get people or oneself to shelter.
When things go wrong at a time when we least expect, sometimes even our best effort to salvage the day can blight it. The ability to stay in character at your wedding starts days before the main event.
One thing that will help you achieve this is by making sure that you find time to relax before the big day. Another thing you want to do is rehearse physically, mentally and emotionally for the big day’s events. This will help you on big day to make adjustment with panic as you would have experienced the model before the day.
Another suggestion to help you stay in character is to hand over all last-minute and on-the-day wedding to-do details to trusted friends or relatives.
This typically should be someone who is mature, trustworthy and capable of making independent decision that if anything were to happen this person is able to make a decision and execute it.
Many a grooms and brides are prevented from eating owing to nerves and stress. While not enjoying food may not be an issue, one needs to stay hydrated as it helps one from unnecessary sweat and ultimately fainting especially in crammed halls with poor ventilation.
Finally, when something unexpected happens on your day, look at the bright side, smile, joke about it and focus on the big picture.
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