Lo­cate, ad­dress your men­tal bias

The Sunday Mail (Zimbabwe) - - Motivation -

a rose and ev­ery per­son is ei­ther a user or abuser with a hid­den agenda.

Noth­ing ever seems to add up be­cause you feel that the world is al­ways rigged against you.

Change your bias and chal­lenge your neg­a­tive be­liefs.

In­deed life is not rosy. The dif­fi­cul­ties of to­day are not enough ev­i­dence that ev­ery­thing is fa­tally evil, bad, pa­thetic and sickly. You are able to go through what you are go­ing through. There are pos­si­bil­i­ties be­yond your wildest dreams.

In the midst of the mud there is op­por­tu­nity. We may all be in a hole, but oth­ers are look­ing up to see the stars.

In­side your scars lie the great stars of pos­si­bil­i­ties.

In your most dif­fi­cult mo­ments lie the seeds of your great­est op­por­tu­nity.

What things are is not what they will al­ways be.

See your­self in a new light and see pos­si­bil­i­ties. See your great­ness once again for the seed of great­ness was al­ways in you and never left you.

You may have for­got­ten how great you are but that does not change the fact that great­ness lies in you. Suzy Kassem in her poem, “

wrote: “Be­fore you were born, And were still too tiny for The hu­man eye to see, You won the race for life From among 250 mil­lion com­peti­tors. And yet, How fast you have for­got­ten Your strength, When your very ex­is­tence Is proof of your great­ness. You were born a win­ner, A war­rior, One who de­fied the odds By sur­viv­ing the most grue­some Bat­tle of them all. And now that you are a gi­ant, Why do you even doubt vic­tory Against smaller num­bers, And wider mar­gins? The only walls that ex­ist, Are those you have placed in your mind. And what­ever ob­sta­cles you con­ceive, Ex­ist only be­cause you have for­got­ten What you have al­ready Achieved.”

Bias for blame

You know you suf­fer from this men­tal sick­ness if you are al­ways blam­ing oth­ers and be­rat­ing them for all your ills.

You have the bias for blame if you are al­ways push­ing blame and never re­spon- sible for any­thing.

Blame will never solve any­thing or take you for­ward. In­stead of think­ing that other peo­ple are the cause of your mis­ery, swal­low a lit­tle pride and take re­spon­si­bil­ity.

If any­thing is to be, it de­pends on you. It is not who you blame that mat­ters, but what you do.

Blame will never take the place of ex­e­cu­tion.

Who­ever and what­ever you blame, you em­power to cause your mis­ery.

Ob­sta­cles are not a blame dump­ing ground. It is not the size of the ob­sta­cle that mat­ters, but the depth of your de­ter­mi­na­tion to win.

Do not give your ob­sta­cles celebrity sta­tus.

Con­front your chal­lenges as a will­ing learner. Should you fail, do not blame any­one oth­er­wise you throw away the learn­ing op­por­tu­nity. Re­flect and be re­flex­ive. Learn all you can and be will­ing to stay long enough at a task to out­last its chal­lenge and win. Stop look­ing else­where for a sil­ver bul­let. You are the sil­ver bul­let and the key to the re­sults you seek.

Ap­ply your­self. Work as if ev­ery­thing de­pends on you.

Pray as if ev­ery­thing de­pends on God.

Bias for to­mor­row

Some peo­ple have a lot of to­mor­row, what is not done to­day can al­ways be con­signed to to­mor­row.

To­day is never con­ve­nient, ev­ery­thing is al­ways pushed to to­mor­row.

Pro­cras­ti­na­tion is the thief of time and killer of dreams.

To­mor­row is a trap that clut­ters your mind and steal your ef­fi­cacy.

To­mor­row may never come, to­day is what you have avail­able. Use to­day well or lose it for­ever. Stop pro­cras­ti­nat­ing and putting a “pay for­ward” la­bel on your cal­en­dar items.

Stop ex­press­ing your ef­forts in fu­ture tense. What you do not cover to­day is lost for­ever. To­mor­row will be an­other day, an­other ac­tiv­ity stream.

Never for­get that you can never store time, it marches on.

To­day is the youngest that you will ever be. You do not live back­wards and achieve in ret­ro­spect.

The op­por­tu­nity you have is called to­day. The temp­ta­tion you have is called to­mor­row.

Make the most of ev­ery mo­ment and do not let your per­sonal power lie dor­mant.

Live to­day as if it is your last day, be­cause some day soon it will be. On that day, do not say I did not tell you so.

Bias for wishes

Wishes are wishy-washy de­sires that have not been crys­tallised into goals.

Wishes are sickly in­ten­tions usu­ally premised on chance. You can­not wish your way to great­ness. Move be­yond wishes and set good bold and ex­cit­ing goals. Goals are the seeds of all great­ness.

If you do not set in­spir­ing goals, you will just ac­ci­den­tally ram­ble through life.

I am sure that you do not in­tend to be an accident or to live a lie.

Stop wish­ing your life could be any­thing dif­fer­ent and set bold new goals to drive your life for­ward.

There is more op­por­tu­nity than you can use. Set the goal and start work­ing to­wards that goal.

Mir­a­cles are pos­si­ble and they are cre­ated daily. Live in­ten­tion­ally and you will achieve ex­cep­tion­ally.

Your vi­sion will al­ways be greater than your cur­rent ca­pa­bil­i­ties.

Your goals may look big and in­tim­i­dat­ing - that is what good goals should be.

The gaps be­tween where you are and where you want to go is your op­por­tu­nity for learn­ing and growth.

Noth­ing is as mo­ti­vat­ing as a clear goal that is pur­sued with pas­sion and fe­ro­cious fo­cus.

Bias for su­per­sti­tion

Ghosts, demons, spir­its, an­gels ex­ist. Live with a con­scious­ness of God, not evil. For some, ev­ery­thing that hap­pens is a su­per­sti­tious sign, symp­tom or prophecy.

A lit­tle mus­cle twitch means some­thing is go­ing to hap­pen. A headache means im­pend­ing agony. Stop stack­ing the odds against your­self by be­liev­ing that you are set up for some neg­a­tive hap­pen­ing. What­ever you fo­cus on you mag­nify. Tear up the neg­a­tive script. Stop be­liev­ing the neg­a­tive prophe­cies of doom.

There is a fu­ture for you. Be­lieve that you are set-up for great­ness, wired for suc­cess and po­si­tioned for ex­ploits. In Africa, an­ces­tors are in­flu­en­tial. Stop be­liev­ing that they are an­gry against you and on a path to de­stroy you. Do not die be­fore you are dead or live to please death. Life can be lived dif­fer­ently. Stop liv­ing a life of fear and tor­ment be­cause of su­per­sti­tion or flawed be­liefs.

There is a great God who de­sires good for you.

Curses are bro­ken and life can be a dar­ing ad­ven­ture for you.

Bias for the past

You suf­fer from this bias if you are al­ways pre­fer­ring the past and wish­ing you could go there.

The past is gone and it is not com­ing back.

Stop liv­ing your life look­ing at the rearview mir­ror when the op­por­tu­ni­ties for vi­sion­ary liv­ing are lim­it­less.

Liv­ing in the past makes you ir­rel­e­vant in the present and a mere relic.

Those who are wed­ded to the past be­come li­a­bil­ity to progress.

Ap­pre­ci­ate the good things about the past but be will­ing to move on and face for­ward.

If you do not change, you run the risk of be­com­ing ex­tinct.

Keep chal­leng­ing your­self, re­view­ing your pos­ture in life and mon­i­tor­ing your per­sonal di­a­logue.

Be aware of the bi­ases that dis­tort re­al­ity and limit your growth. You have great­ness in you and are engi­neered for suc­cess.

Have a bias for re­lent­less ac­tion.

Mil­ton Kamwendo is an in­ter­na­tional trans­for­ma­tional and in­spi­ra­tional speaker, au­thor and coach. His life pur­pose is to in­spire peo­ple to be great. He can be reached at: mkamwendo@ gmail.com and Twit­ter: @Mil­tonKamwendo or What­sApp at: 0772422634.

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