Muroora ichapa, lives in filth

HELLO Mai Chisamba, I hope I find you well. I am a mother of six and I am happily married. Our children are married so tiri sekuru nambuya. We have a house in town but now we are retired and we currently reside at our home in the rural areas. I am a very smart lady and I am fussy about what I eat, what I wear and where I stay. I am very hygienic, unfortunately my house in town has been turned into a pig sty by my daughter-in-law. She is very lazy and very untidy it is unfortunate that my son now dances to the same tune. Each time I go visit I clean the house and yard but this does not ring a bell to her.

Mwana ane tsvina iyeye and haadi nayo tsvina yake. I regret having left them in charge of our home. The flowers and the plants are all gone. Baba is also very upset about this but we just do not know what to do. I thought it was a better option to let them stay at the house than renting out to strangers.

I tried to speak to her but she is the stubborn type and shows no respect. The state and the condition of my house has reduced my love for my daughter in-law. When I visit them the truth is it is not for them but for me to go clean up.

She does not even assist when I do this instead she gives me a ndeyekwako look. Now she hardly visits us, only my son comes with his children once in a while kana pacho paaimbouya taito shuwira kuti achaenda rinhi kumba kwake, chapa yemakoko. Please I am confused I do not know what to do I am very unhappy. RESPONSE I am very well, thank you for asking. Congratulations it is very refreshing to hear of happy marriages especially in your old age. That is what it should be. People are born different to some you have to convey the message and to others you may use subtle actions and they will read in-between the lines.

Be a good communicator, however, so that you all operate on the same wave length.

As a mother you are the back bone of

CAPRICORN (December 22 to January 19): What you want and what your family wants may be two different things. This week, others could expect to be involved in key discussions regarding important decisions. And with a Full Moon complicating events and possibly creating some drama, emotions may be running high. However, this could allow for a release of tension. Once everyone has had their say and things have calmed down, you may find that you can find a harmonious solution that works for all.

AQUARIUS (January 20 to February 18):