Mind your focus

The Sunday Mail (Zimbabwe) - - MOTIVATION -

gar­den is not care­fully man­aged and cul­ti­vated. Men­tal weeds of neg­a­tiv­ity, pes­simism, de­featism, gloomi­ness and cyn­i­cism grow when you do not de­lib­er­ately choose your focus and the con­ver­sa­tions that you will en­ter­tain.

Recre­ational com­plain­ing may be a pain-killer but in the realm of great­ness, it is toxic. Words are pow­er­ful and you are re­spon­si­ble for ev­ery word you speak.

When you mas­ter your mouth, you re­alise your ma­tu­rity. Ev­ery time you open your mouth, your mind walks out and pa­rades up and down the words. Your words are liv­ing po­ten­tial en­ergy ready for de­ploy­ment.

Any­one who knows the prin­ci­ples of great­ness knows that words are too im­por­tant to scat­ter mind­lessly. As you think, so you speak, cre­ate and even­tu­ally be­come. As you speak, you at­tract and mag­ne­tise things around your life.

To change your life, change your think­ing and speak­ing. Joseph Con­rad once said: “Words have set whole na­tions in mo­tion. Give me the right word and the right ac­cent and I will move the world.”

When­ever you open your mouth, you ac­ti­vate and put some­thing in mo­tion. Words live in minds and hearts long af­ter they are spo­ken, and they con­tinue to in­flu­ence long af­ter the speaker has for­got­ten. Words never die be­cause they are liv­ing things with an eter­nal echo.

Words cre­ate

Words can heal and they can also shat­ter bones. Your words cre­ate your world and shape your ex­pe­ri­ences. Do not use words care­lessly and think you will get away with it. Words are things. They are pow­er­ful tools of cre­ation. Choose them wisely and ap­ply them with de­lib­er­ate care. Craft your words to shape your life and not to de­stroy it.

Lis­ten to your­self speak­ing and take note. What­ever you are say­ing is what you are cre­at­ing and be­com­ing. Your emo­tional charge and en­vi­ron­men­tal in­flu­ences do not change the re­spon­si­bil­ity you carry for your words. It is not about how you are feel­ing that mat­ters but what you are cre­at­ing. Words are feed-stock to your life’s pro­duc­tion fac­tory. You can­not stop the pro­duc­tion plant from run­ning but your can de­ter­mine the raw ma­te­ri­als you put in.

Do not speak like a loser un­less that is what you in­tend to be. As you de­sire, align your words. Words are la­bels. As you la­bel, you cre­ate form. The words you at­tach to any ex­pe­ri­ence be­come the ex­pe­ri­ence. If you want to change any­thing, you start by chang­ing the words that you use. Words are the thread on which you string your ex­pe­ri­ences and fash­ion your de­sires. Thread your words with in­ten­tion and not just as a mere habit or recre­ational com­plain­ing.

In his book, the Greatest Sales­man in the World, Og Mandino shares some in­spir­ing scrolls. In Scroll Three, he has these words: “In the Ori­ent, young bulls are tested for the fight arena in a cer­tain man­ner. Each is brought to the ring and al­lowed to at­tack a pi­cador who pricks them with a lance.

The brav­ery of each bull is then rated with care ac­cord­ing to the num­ber of times he demon­strates his will­ing­ness to charge in spite of the st­ing of the blade. Hence­forth will I recog­nise that each day I am tested by life in that man­ner. If I per­sist, if I con­tinue to try, if I con­tinue to charge for­ward, I will suc­ceed.”

In­deed each day you are be­ing tested by life. Keep the fight­ing spirit de­spite the st­ing of the blade.

Mandino goes on to say: “I was not de­liv­ered unto this world in de­feat, nor does fail­ure course in my veins. I am not a sheep wait­ing to be prod­ded by my shep­herd. I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I will hear not those who weep and com­plain, for their dis­ease is con­ta­gious. Let them join the sheep. The slaugh­ter­house of fail­ure is not my des­tiny. I will per­sist un­til I suc­ceed.”

Choose your des­tiny and the com­pany that you join. Choose your words and your com­pany. You chose your words and your words choose your des­tiny.

Ex­pand and keep grow­ing your vo­cab­u­lary of great­ness. When your vo­cab­u­lary is lim­ited, your life, mean­ings and ex­pres­sions are lim­ited. Look at words as a tool box. Use the tools wisely and for good pur­pose. Keep ac­quir­ing new word-tools and use these ap­pro­pri­ately. Mark Twain was right when he wrote: “A pow­er­ful agent is the right word. When­ever we come upon one of those in­tensely right words, the re­sult­ing ef­fect is phys­i­cal as well as spir­i­tual and elec­tri­cally prompt.”

Words are tools of cre­ation. Be aware of their ef­fect, choose and ap­ply them with care.

Word choice

The most im­por­tant words are the ones that you use with your­self. What you tell your­self is im­por­tant. Stop speak­ing to your­self like a fool and “chop­ping off your own legs.” What­ever you suffix af­ter the words, “I am . . .” you are sow­ing seeds to re­alise it. Dis­cour­ag­ing your­self and dis­em­pow­er­ing your­self is not a path­way to great­ness. Be­fore you can even mo­ti­vate oth­ers, ma­jor in mo­ti­vat­ing your­self. Speak to your­self not as you feel but as you want to feel and be. It is about un­der­stand­ing the laws of life and cre­ation.

Take a cue from Og Mandino who con­tin­ues the scroll men­tioned above with the words: “I will never con­sider de­feat and I will re­move from my vo­cab­u­lary such words and phrases as quit, can­not, un­able, im­pos­si­ble, out of the ques­tion, im­prob­a­ble, fail­ure, un­work­able, hope­less, and re­treat; for they are the words of fools. I will avoid de­spair but if this dis­ease of the mind should in­fect me then I will work on in de­spair. I will toil and I will en­dure.

I will ig­nore the ob­sta­cles at my feet and keep mine eyes on the goals above my head, for I know that where dry desert ends, green grass grows.” Keep work­ing and mov­ing for­ward be­cause you know that where dry dessert ends, there green grass grows. Keep speak­ing your great­ness des­tiny. To be­come a cham­pion, speak like one.

Di­rect focus

What­ever you focus on grows. Choose de­lib­er­ately what you focus on and where you place your em­pha­sis in life. Focus on strengths and you will grow stronger. Focus on that which is not work­ing, and you will start see­ing how many things are bro­ken and break­ing down. Be­come like a thought­ful cam­era-man and choose the images that you dwell on and ex­pose your mind to.

Choose what you focus on be­cause what­ever you focus on you are giv­ing it form and a cul­ture to breed.

Yes­ter­day hap­pened. Do not live your life fo­cus­ing on the rear-view mir­ror. Choose to focus on the road ahead. Your past may have been lim­ited, your fu­ture does not need to be. To move for­ward, take with you the best parts of the past.

Focus on your strengths and not your weak­nesses. You will be more suc­cess­ful when you focus on your strengths with con­fi­dence than when you strug­gle with over­com­ing your weak­nesses with dif­fi­culty. Focus on mak­ing your life work in­stead of com­pli­cat­ing things for your­self.

Choose what you study and what you favour with your at­ten­tion. Be present and ap­pre­ci­ate the beauty around you in­stead of squan­der­ing your life look­ing out of the win­dow blindly. The metaphors that you use shape your be­liefs and cre­ate your men­tal en­vi­ron­ment. Com­mit­ted to your great­ness. ◆ Mil­ton Kamwendo is a lead­ing in­ter­na­tional trans­for­ma­tional and mo­ti­va­tional speaker, au­thor, and ex­ec­u­tive coach. His life pur­pose is to in­spire and pro­mote great­ness. He can be reached at: [email protected] and Twit­ter: @ Mil­tonKamwendo or What­sApp at: 0772422634. His web­site is: www. mil­tonkamwendo.com

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