AM I AD­DICTED TO APPS?

WE RE­CEIVED THIS HEART­FELT HELP MES­SAGE FROM A READER, AND PAN­ICKED! SO WE ASKED AN EX­PERT TO PRO­VIDE THE AN­SWER…

DNA Magazine - - CONTENT #209 -

Last week­end I was at t he pub with my t hree best mates. Two of t hem are in re­la­tion­ships with su­per nice guys. The t hird has had a cou­ple of long-term re­la­tion­ships. As we were sit­ting t here hav­ing a Sun­day arvo beer, I started to t hink, How come, at 32, I’ve never had a real boyfriend?

I’m okay look­ing, got a job, play sports (hockey), and I can re­ally move on t he dancef loor! I have f lings t hat last a cou­ple of weeks but t hen t hey just fade away or I end up break­ing it off be­cause he’s not right.

I asked my mates and t heir an­swer shocked me. “You’re sexy and con­fi­dent and ac­ces­si­ble – and by ‘ac­ces­si­ble’ I mean you’re a slut,” said one of t hem. The oth­ers agreed t hat I’m “t he slutt y one” of t he group. (I have tons of sex – but when you’re young and gay ev­ery­one does, right?)

My friends asked me when I last met a man without us­ing an app. I’m like, so what if I hook up with guys off apps? Why is t hat dif­fer­ent to meet­ing t hem at t he deli or t he gym? They t hink it’s part of my slut na­ture. But t he t ruth is, I never hook up in “real life”. Al­ways off my phone. Am I ad­dicted to dis­pos­able sex? Has t his made it hard for me to con­nect with some­one else emo­tion­ally? Is t his stop­ping me from f in­d­ing a long-term boyfriend?

To be hon­est, I have been think­ing about this a lot and it has started to make me feel sad so please treat this ques­tion se­ri­ously. Maybe I’m just not ready to set­tle down, but I’m also wor­ried that I might be miss­ing out on a great boyfriend be­cause I don’t know how to have a re­la­tion­ship?” – K.F., Fitzroy, Vic.

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