Geelong Advertiser - - LIFESTYLE - with HOL­I­DAY MATHIS


Hu­mans are fal­li­ble crea­tures with a strong ca­pac­ity to learn and grow. It’s why you don’t even mind when some­one crit­i­cises you to­day. It’s a chance to im­prove and maybe even solve some­thing.


The wise Ro­man em­peror Mar­cus Aure­lius sug­gested that it is not the ex­ter­nal things that pain us, but our judg­ment of them, which is within our power to wipe out. You’ll change your mind about some­thing to­day.


Some peo­ple throw stones; other peo­ple build with them. Fig­ure out whom you’re deal­ing with and what they can and can’t be trusted with. What hangs in the bal­ance here may be your heart.


When peo­ple act out of love, it brings them to­gether. When they act out of fear, it drives them apart. This is why no one can be forced, in­tim­i­dated or ma­nip­u­lated into loy­alty, af­fec­tion or love.


Ask any pilot: Course cor­rec­tion is more or less a con­stant in the air. To avoid the storms, air traf­fic and more, pi­lots and au­topi­lots are con­stantly mak­ing ad­just­ments to the flight plan.


So much about the in­ter­ac­tions of the day won’t be per­sonal. Stay a bit de­tached to bet­ter see how things work. The per­son you want to pay at­ten­tion to you will need some ex­tra rea­son to do so.


As for the rules of the game, it’s not what they are that mat­ter – rather, it’s that all of the play­ers agree on what they are. To know this for sure, you may have to break it down point by point.


The cos­mic sug­ges­tion is to throw kind­ness like con­fetti – which is to say, di­rectly up, so it can rain down wher­ever. If you aim kind­ness, or con­fetti, too force­fully or di­rectly, in­jury can oc­cur.


Try to de­ter­mine whether your sur­round­ings are sup­port­ing you in the di­rec­tion you want to grow. Lo­ca­tion isn’t ev­ery­thing, but right now it’s much, much more im­por­tant than you might have guessed.


You’d like to be sure you’re on the same page as those under your charge. But, if you give them too much of the plan up­front, they’ll ei­ther be in­tim­i­dated by the task, or they’ll sec­ond-guess you.


Peo­ple will do il­log­i­cal things to re­gain power. They will act ir­ra­tionally to pre­serve a sense of self or the con­ti­nu­ity of their per­sonal story. If you want them to be pre­dictable and man­age­able, pose no threat.


Small prob­lems, if not cor­rected, can be­come big prob­lems. It won’t take you very long at all to rec­tify the seem­ingly lit­tle and in­con­se­quen­tial is­sues (that ac­tu­ally have great po­ten­tial for con­se­quence).

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