Cre­ate a great LIFE

Great Health Guide - - FRONT PAGE - Words Dr Matthew An­der­son De­sign Olek­san­dra Zuieva

Iam con­vinced that most peo­ple live their lives barely, spo­rad­i­cally, piece­meal, par­tially and for the most part un­aware of the in­cred­i­ble gift they have been given. In­stead they are car­ried and de­fined by the rules, reg­u­la­tions and rit­u­als of oth­ers who are them­selves un­con­scious of the real forces that drive their be­liefs and de­ci­sions. Only briefly and in un­usual cir­cum­stances do they ex­pe­ri­ence an open­ing through which they see the true col­ors of life or the im­mense po­ten­tial that ex­ists in their own hearts.

Bod­ies move and re­spon­si­bil­i­ties are met. Work is done, chil­dren are born and the cy­cle con­tin­ues but in the midst of this, very lit­tle liv­ing oc­curs. Very few love un­til it hurts, cry un­til they sob, laugh un­til they fall down and sing and dance un­til ev­ery on­looker is caught up in the mu­sic.

What a strange ques­tion and so tragic that it must be asked. Why are we all so fear­ful of open­ing our­selves to the mag­nif­i­cence of this life? There are some an­swers that make a cer­tain sense. We fear be­ing over­whelmed or hurt, yes and we also fear be­ing over­come by joy but some­how, to me, th­ese an­swers are not enough. They only leave me stuck in the fear and cer­tainly not closer to be­ing more fully alive.

I have asked, ‘why are we all so afraid to live?’ for the bet­ter part of 50 years and have found at least as many an­swers as years but none sat­is­fies, not one. And so, I have de­cided to stop ask­ing. I don’t care any­more. Why are so many of us afraid of liv­ing? I refuse to waste even a brief but pre­cious sec­ond search­ing for an ex­pla­na­tion. In­stead, I have de­cided to live…to live as fully and com­pletely in this mo­ment, right now, as I can and trust that this liv­ing will be an an­swer in it­self.

WHY ARE WE ALL SO AFRAID TO LIVE? TO CRE­ATE A LIFE WITH SUCH FEROCITY SUCH PAS­SION AND TENDER ELEGANCE SUCH AT­TEN­TION TO WHAT IS MEANINGFUL AND SOULFUL THAT ONE BE­COMES EN­TIRELY IRREPLACEABLE. A FORCE OF BE­ING WITH­OUT A WASTED BREATH A FULLNESS, A LIGHT THAT GIVES EVEN IN ITS PASS­ING A GLIMPSE OF THE FACE OF GOD.

Now I have new ques­tions and they are not about fear. They are about be­ing alive.

Am I liv­ing right now? Am I lov­ing right now? Am I present right now? Am I shar­ing right now? Am I par­tic­i­pat­ing right now? Am I cre­at­ing right now? Am I lis­ten­ing right now? Am I re­spond­ing right now? Am I feel­ing right now? Am I grate­ful right now?

There is only one an­swer to each and ev­ery ques­tion that is ac­cept­able to me now.

• I do not have the time for any­thing less than YES!

• I have no time left to kill or waste or pass.

• I have no space for NO and no de­sire to hide from won­der or from pain.

• I am re­solved to live un­til I am dead and not die one sin­gle mo­ment be­fore my last breath.

• I have only one re­sponse to this life, what­ever it is or will be…YES!

Dr Matthew An­der­son, Doc­tor of Min­istry spe­cial­izes in coun­selling. He has ex­ten­sive train­ing and ex­pe­ri­ence in Gestalt and Jun­gian Psy­chol­ogy and has helped many peo­ple suc­cess­fully nav­i­gate re­la­tion­ship is­sues. Dr An­der­son has a best-sell­ing book, ‘The Res­ur­rec­tion of Ro­mance’ and he may be con­tacted via his web­site.

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