HAP­PI­NESS: A WELL-ADJUSTED LIFE PART 2

Hap­pi­ness is a by-prod­uct, your re­ward for good liv­ing

Great Health Guide - - CONTENTS - Ruane J. Lip­kie

Hap­pi­ness. That’s ev­ery­one’s goal re­gard­less of what­ever we do in life. Hap­pi­ness is not a des­ti­na­tion, in fact it is a by-prod­uct of ef­fec­tive life ad­just­ment. What this means is that it is wise to ac­cept that life has both ups and downs. It is im­por­tant to take plea­sure in the good things while be­ing able to learn how to man­age the dis­ap­point­ments as you try and find some pos­i­tive mean­ing from your chal­lenges. Ul­ti­mately, if your life has purpose and you es­tab­lish de­sir­able goals, then hap­pi­ness will come to you as you at­tain th­ese goals.

Here are three more prin­ci­ples that will em­power you to be more pos­i­tive and happy, when life’s chal­lenges come your way.

1. Do you have unity?

Unity means that you are not torn be­tween choices, that all your ac­tions lead to the for­ma­tion of a well-in­te­grated per­son­al­ity and or­derly think­ing. If you choose to do some­thing en­joy it. If you feel bad about it or that you shouldn’t take an ac­tion, then don’t it. For ex­am­ple, if you de­cide to eat a piece of choco­late cake then take plea­sure in the ex­pe­ri­ence. Don’t spend the whole time say­ing ‘I shouldn’t be eat­ing this, I will need to diet to­mor­row’.

2. Do you have bal­ance?

Bal­ance means that you do not wrap your en­tire life ex­clu­sively around one per­son or en­tity. For ex­am­ple, your fam­ily, your part­ner, one friend or your job. When bal­ance is not main­tained, this po­ten­tially sets you up to rely solely on one sin­gle sup­port net­work. In a sit­u­a­tion where you re­quire sup­port from oth­ers out­side of that net­work, this can pro­vide ex­treme chal­lenges as no other op­tions are avail­able. Con­versely, where one net­work is lost you could have other sup­port net­works via many in­ter­ests and ac­tiv­i­ties.

Re­mem­ber to not lose your bal­ance by at­tempt­ing to please ev­ery­one. If you feel ev­ery­one must like and ad­mire you or com­ment favourably about you, you will end up be­ing un­happy. This is sim­ply an un­achiev­able goal.

3. Can you live with each prob­lem in your life as it arises?

Some­time peo­ple spend time re­gret­ting and re­gress­ing i.e. wish­ing they had an­other op­por­tu­nity or an­other chance. They say, ‘If only I could live my life over again, I wouldn’t make the same mis­takes’. This state­ment is true be­cause a whole dif­fer­ent set of mis­takes would be made. It is easy to worry over the past and the fu­ture with­out even con­sid­er­ing the present. Essen­tially, liv­ing in the past with re­grets serves no purpose. This sim­ply will not change the sit­u­a­tion.

A bet­ter ap­proach is to live in the present and deal with each chal­lenge as it arises. How many times have you wor­ried about some­thing that may hap­pen in the fu­ture and it never even oc­curred? A so­lu­tion: as a prob­lem arises, process a few pos­si­ble so­lu­tions. Per­haps even talk to friends, fam­ily or a trained pro­fes­sional to help to work out the best op­tion to move for­ward.

As you jour­ney through­out life try to re­mem­ber this lit­tle ditty. It may help you.

HAP­PI­NESS IS SIM­PLY A BY-PROD­UCT, YOUR RE­WARD FOR GOOD LIV­ING.

Ruane J. Lip­kie is a psy­chol­o­gist and of­fers psy­chol­ogy and coun­selling ad­vice for a range of mod­ern day chal­lenges in­clud­ing clin­i­cal, de­vel­op­men­tal, emo­tional, ed­u­ca­tional and re­la­tion­ship con­cerns. Ruane may be con­tacted via her web­site.

‘AS YOU MAKE YOUR WAY THROUGH LIFE, WHAT­EVER BE YOUR GOAL, KEEP YOUR EYE UPON THE DOUGHNUT AND NOT ON THE HOLE.’

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