Of ‘sleep divorce’ to solve night-time challenges

associated with the term do little to alleviate concerns.

For many couples, discussing the fact that they don’t sleep together remains a significant challenge.

Common misconceptions persist, such as the belief that couples who sleep separately are unhappy or that their relationship is faltering.

On top of that, advocates of sleep divorce often overlook the benefits of sharing the same bed. While sleeping together can sometimes compromise sleep quality, the presence of a loved one offers comfort and emotional support, which can reduce stress and potentially enhance sleep quality.

And there is a concern that sleeping apart might diminish intimacy and connection between partners.

Yet for the most part, a conscious uncoupling for quality sleep is thought to enhance rather than harm a relationship.

Those embarking on a sleep divorce typically trial new arrangements to establish what works best for them.

Flexibility is important. For example, some couples might opt for a partial sleep divorce, where they start the night together and one partner moves if sleep disturbances occur. Others may choose to sleep apart during the week but share a bed on weekends.

The right approach is highly individual and should be tailored to the couple’s needs and preferences.

For some, the mere thought of sleep divorce will continue to evoke images of a partner relegated to the living room couch after a fight.

At the same time, the practice is increasingly being embraced as a smart, love-enhancing move by couples looking to prioritise their health and happiness, both individually and together.

While co-sleeping strengthens the bond for some, separate beds or rooms might be the key to restful nights for others.

With mutual agreement and continuous conversations, experimenting with various sleeping setups poses no harm and can lead to discovering what truly works best for both partners.

As to the actual number of couples choosing to sleep apart, we’ll probably never know exactly how widespread it is.

Despite more couples coming forward to talk about their alternative sleeping arrangements and destigmatising the practice of separate beds, the fact remains that what happens in the bedroom, still tends to stay in the bedroom.

For those struggling to get a decent night’s rest, exploring these alternative options might be a worthwhile consideration.

At the very least, it’s something to sleep on.