Allison Dubois

Put yourself first and contentment will follow, says psychic Allison

QI’ve recently separated from my husband. The relationship was a confusing one and yet I naively persevered, thinking for the most part he was a decent guy, only to learn he wasn’t. Will my daughter be OK with all the changes, and how will she manage the separation? What if he speaks ill of me to her? I worry so much.

Samantha, via email.

ASamantha, when I tap into your husband’s energy, he feels very selfish. He also keeps a lot of secrets from you.

Don’t be hard on yourself – often our emotions blind us to the reality of who someone really is.

Children are very good at adapting to new situations – they’re stronger than we think. Your daughter may not see who her dad really is right now, and maybe that’s best, but eventually she’ll see him through your eyes.

Be mindful not to speak badly of your husband to your daughter. Later in life she’ll weigh what you said about him against what he said about you, and that will speak volumes to her.

If you shame the parent, you shame the child, and that’s not fair to kids – after all, they didn’t pick their parents. I know you have a lot of healing ahead, but you’re going to be fine. You’re going to show your daughter what a strong and loving mother she has.

In the future, don’t be afraid to love. Another chance at a relationship is heading your way.

QMy mum passed away a few months ago. I would like to know if she is at peace and happy. She had a hard life, especially these past 10 years, fighting dementia and being so young.

Natalie, via email.

ANatalie, sometimes life can be terribly unfair. I’m sorry about your mum. When I do a reading and bring through someone who had dementia, one of the first things they say is that they’re clear and focused again.

I assure you that your mother is vibrant and quick-witted again. Our body’s limitations don’t limit our spirit’s ability to thrive, and once our body dies, our soul is free to grow and connect with others.

Your mum will never have a bad day again, only days filled with her favourite memories and looking in on you.

Talk to your mother – the more you talk to her, the stronger your spiritual connection with her will become.

QMy husband passed away in June from a rare cancer, which he fought for seven years. I have been with him since I was 17 and I’m now 52. I’m really struggling and I don’t know what to do. Leane, via email.

ALeane, it sounds like you and your husband were the real deal, a true love story. I’m sorry that he was taken from you in such a painful way.

Reconnect with people from your past, people you grew up with, went to school with and shared memories with.

At 52 you’re still young, so make your husband proud – travel and let him come along for the ride. The more that you talk to him, the easier it will be for him to reach you through dreams and signs.