Allison Dubois

Through all the ups and downs in life, loved ones are always watching over us

QMy husband passed away two years ago. I ask myself if there was more I could’ve done to save him. I couldn’t move him onto the floor to do CPR, as he was a big man. I miss him and hope he forgives me and knows I love him. Why can’t I feel his presence?

Steph, via email.

ASteph, don’t keep torturing yourself. Your husband knows you did the best you could, but your guilt is keeping you from him. You’re unable to sense him through your pain. You need to let go of the guilt.

He knows you miss him. Let his love wash over you and free you from your pain. It’s time to rejoin the living – let him live vicariously through you. Open up and allow his communication with you to come through.

QMy partner has been dieting, brushing his teeth at work and taking extra care of his appearance. I’ve found out he’s constantly texting and calling a married colleague. He insists they’re just friends, but he deletes his messages. I want to believe him, but I’m suspicious. Is he cheating?

Anonymous, via email.

AI can see why you’re worried – all the classic bad signs that a partner is trying to impress someone else are there. Deleting messages is an action to cover up communication with others, and that’s not good.

Being a couple involves sharing everything. I’m sure his co-worker’s husband would feel the same way you do.

I’m a big fan of trusting your gut instincts. Tell your partner that you’re going to invite his co-worker and her husband over for dinner. His reaction should tell you everything you need to know about the situation.

QMy daughter has had a rough time. She was very sick last year and almost died. She is slowly recovering. Can you see her regaining her self-esteem? Will she find a job she loves and someone who loves her for who she is?

Jenny, via email.

AJenny, your daughter has to focus on her health right now. She needs to recover before she worries about work or love. I hope she has physical therapy to help her to regain her strength – if she doesn’t, she probably needs it.

This can also help her with her self-esteem. When you are stronger, you feel better about your future. Simple things like a new outfit and a trip to the hair and nail salon works wonders for one’s self-esteem.

Her state of mind will determine whether she finds love and a job. If she can stay positive and devote the energy it takes to bounce back, she’ll be fine. Maybe she could get certified in physical therapy and help others.

Your daughter’s future is in her hands. It can be as bright as she wants it to be.

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