LOVED ONES WHO PASS HELP IN TIMES OF NEED, SAYS ALLISON

Q

I have wonderful daughters, but 17 years ago my second daughter passed from cancer. Now my three other daughters are having babies, I am hoping she will return to us. Do you think we will be lucky and she’ll return as a grandchild?

Suzanne, via email.

A

Suzanne, anything’s possible. In my experience, it’s the babies that don’t survive infancy that recycle back to the family. People who reincarnate seem to come back in a family unrelated to them, at least in the cases I’ve seen studied. Your daughter who passed from cancer most likely will act as a guardian for your grandchildren. The deceased tend to have an affinity towards children who look like them or are named after them.

Losing a child is the most painful thing you can endure. I’m sure your daughter’s worked very hard to send you signs through the years that she’s around. She’s been with you all this time, she never left you. Children who die almost always stay with their parents and siblings. They wait for them and intervene in times of great need.

Q

My mum and my dad passed away seven months ago in a car accident. A week later, a strange woman came to tell me that she is my ‘real’ mum. DNA tests proved we were related. I live with my ‘real’ family now, but do they just want to take advantage of my inheritance? I’m confused.

Fleur, via email.

A

Fleur, be careful. In such a confusing time, get your own place. You can get to know your biological family without living with them. The family who raised you was there when you were sick, needed to be taken care of and for all of those special moments in your childhood. Your biological family had the option to find you since you came of age, yet they waited until your parents died.

My sense is that your parents knew something about the circumstances around your adoption that your biological family wasn’t proud of. By all means get to know them, but keep your finances separate. I’m sorry your parents died. I know you must miss them very much.

Q

Our beautiful mum passed away five years ago, and my gorgeous sister and godson both passed at young ages. Are they together in the spirit world? Are they helping us from above? We have had lots of sadness and I am constantly watching out for signs from them.

Barbara, via email.

A

Barbara, they’re family, so of course they are together. They wouldn’t want their memory to make you sad. They’d want you to remember the great joy that you felt when together. How lucky you were to be in each other’s lives and have the moments that you shared.

The deceased lend us their strength when we feel weak. They wait for us to tell them what we need, how they can help us. When we show them that we don’t take our lives for granted and we experience new things, it makes them proud.

I’m not saying not to miss them. Live for you, but live for them too! Do the things they didn’t get to do in life. You’ll be amazed how good sharing your experiences with them will feel.

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