KEEP THE HAPPY VIBES UP WHEN LOOKING FOR LOVE, SAYS ALLISON
Q My mum passed away seven years ago. A few weeks after she died, she came into my dream. She was telling me she couldn’t find the way and it’s too dark. Did she find her way to heaven?
Nicole, via email. A Nicole, if your mum had loved ones who preceded her in death, there’s no way that she’s lost. Our loved ones know when we’re going to pass and they’re right there waiting to receive us. Your dream sounds like it was a manifestation of your fear that your mother was lost to you. Your mum walks in sunshine, enjoying all the best that her life had to offer her, reliving all of her happiest days on earth. Please know that your mother has found contentment and she looks for ways to let you know that she’s around. Q My best friend passed away at the age of 50. I am now the age she was when she died. She often told me that I didn’t have forever to find true love. Is she happy on the other side and will I find a new best friend or love?
Denise. A Of course your friend is happy. She gets to be youthful and vibrant again. I know 50-year-old women who have the energy and looks of a 30-year-old but my sense is that at the end of your friend’s life, she wasn’t feeling very vibrant.
Make sure that if you’re looking for love, you’re sending out the vibe you’re a high-energy person looking for adventure and fun. That’s what most people are attracted to. Don’t skip the ‘free-and-single, good-time’ vibe and go right to the ‘I-demand-a -commitment’ vibe, that tends to repel people. The more self-assured you are, the faster you’ll draw in a mate who has a lot to offer in a relationship. Q My dad passed away 40 years ago and I was the only child. When I turned 12 years old he gave me a bracelet, which I wore all the time, until last week, when I lost it. I was devastated, but friends are telling me to move on and let go of the past. I speak to Dad all the time and I always feel his presence. Do you think he is upset with me that I lost the bracelet? I love him so much.
Amira, via email. A Amira, he gave it to you when you were 12 and that’s special, but it’s your memories of him that you will never lose and, that’s the most important thing.
Why not do something more current for your dad, like, have a locket engraved with ‘DAD’ on the back of it, or plant a tree in your yard for him. Some people get a tattoo for their loved one. There are so many ways that you can memorialise your dad.
He wouldn’t be mad at you for losing the bracelet – maybe the bracelet’s absence is him telling you that it’s time to stop being sad about his passing, and it’s time to start embracing him in spirit. Your dad has been part of your life all these years, watching you connect with other people, cheering you on in your career choices and hoping that you live your life to the fullest.
We make our deceased loved ones proud by truly living and reminiscing about all of our good times with them. That’s what they really want to hear. It’s not about the physical things they leave us. That’s for the living to feel connected to them.