ALLISON DUBOIS
LISTEN TO YOUR DREAMS FOR INSPIRATION, SAYS ALLISON
Q Eighteen months ago I moved back to the rural area where I studied pottery with my aunt as a child. Since I have returned, I’ve had that old itch to work with clay, but given I have a job and a family – both of which I love dearly, I think I would be spreading myself too thin if I were to throw myself back into pottery. However, recently I’ve had dreams in which I’m trying really hard to wedge a lumpy bit of clay... I will think it needs some water and then suddenly the clay gets really mushy and when I wake up the feeling of wanting to get that lump of clay smooth is really strong. I’d love to know what you think.
Junine, via email. A Junine, although juggling work and family can be challenging, it’s important to balance life out with activities you enjoy. Mums often put everyone else first – that’s how we’re wired – but we must take time for ourselves too. You’re clearly being ‘nudged’ through your dreams to get back in to pottery so, take it slow and start with a small project. Don’t throw yourself back in but ease yourself back into your hobby. When Mum is happy the rest of the family is also feeling joyful. When Christmas and Mother’s Day roll around, ask your family for pottery supplies. It will make them feel good knowing they’re giving you something that helps your soul to thrive. Q My older son has a little baby girl with a very young woman. She is a good soul, but he has had a troubled past. Will my son make the right choices and find a fulfilling and healthy relationship? Sarka, via email.
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Sarka, your son has struggled to make the right choices in the past. I do think he’s going to have another child with his girlfriend. They will need all your patience and understanding during this time.
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My parents’ relationship was not always an easy one, especially at the end, however there was still much love. I did not know what else to do to help Mum, and my health was suffering. After Mum’s death last year, I had a breakdown. I miss her so much and I am sorry I was not more understanding. Does she forgive me?
Jennifer, via email.
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Jennifer, when people die, they revert to the age they were the happiest, so, your parents are young and falling in love all over again. Your mum understands that you did the best that you could – don’t feel guilty for not being able to handle the pressure. Your mum would tell you that there’s nothing to forgive and to stop being so hard on yourself. The living are so good at beating themselves up for being ‘human’; we’re often our own worst enemy. Try not to do that. Celebrate your parents’ lives and show them that you know how to live a great life – make them proud! You’ll see them again someday, just imagine the smiles on their faces when they greet you! But for now, live life large.