SOLUTIONS FOR SINGLES, OLD FRIENDS, NEW FRIENDS – OUR RESIDENT AGONY AUNT NENE HAS ALL THE ANSWERS!
Q I am needing some advice on strained family relationships. My brother said we would help each other out and if I would like to go and visit our mother he would look after my dog for a weekend once a month. He also said he would assist with transportation to a vet clinic, as I am without a vehicle. Unfortunately he did not keep his word. I have asked several times if the offer still stands and there’s been no response. AMY, VIA EMAIL. A Your brother obviously has changed his mind. Rude of him not to even respond to your requests. There are pet minders out there – some people will stay at your house while you are away and look after your dog. Others will come by regularly to feed your pet. Check the local papers and inquire at your vet clinic. I have a friend who often has dogs to stay while the owners are away. She walks them, feeds them their favourite food and does not charge a motser. She started this regular minding service meeting people at the dog park. She has a dog of her own and through word of mouth has a great little business
I would give your brother the flick. He is not interested in helping you. Ask around and I’m sure you will find someone who will move in or at least regularly feed and walk your dog. Q I’m turning 40 this year and I would like to find someone to be with. I’ve been on my own for a long time Do you think it will happen? Maybe I am better off on my own – that is how I feel . Have you got any suggestions? ANDIE, VIA EMAIL. A Stop feeling sorry for yourself. These days it’s all about online dating. You hear of terrific stories of couples meeting this way. It may take time but you are bound to find a man who suits you. Age is irrelevant. These online dating services cater for all ages. Put your self out there. You may be surprised at what comes your way. Join a gym, take a course at TAFE, learn to play a sport, go on a cruise, an overseas tour trip ... There are so many ways to meet new people. Suggesting you are better off alone is giving up before you have even tried to meet a man. A friend of mine in her mid-40s joined several online dating services, found a wonderful man and is getting married. Q I’m 37 and have been living with my partner, who is 26 for about a year. I’m madly in love with him but we seem to argue on a daily basis. Most of our fights are because he doesn’t help around the house. We’ve considered splitting up but then he gets round me and we make up again. Because of the age gap we seem to have different interests. Do you think we have a future together. TAMARA, VIA EMAIL. A The relationship sounds toxic You may be madly in love with this man but arguing every day is not healthy. You have nothing in common. The age gap is a worry and if you want to stay together you need to air your concerns. Fine for him to go out with his mates but he also needs to understand that you would like to have friends over for dinner. Don’t ignore the early warning signs of things turning sour. Address them as soon as possible by talking to your partner.