ALLISON DUBOIS

THERE IS ALWAYS SOMETHING YOU CAN OFFER TO LIFE, SAYS ALLISON Q

QMy question is: if our souls return to experience another life on earth (sometimes as another member of the family) does that mean the other person won’t be there to greet us when our time comes to pass over? Thank you,

Carolyn, via email.

ACarolyn, in my experience, when people die they don’t come back if they were satisfied with their life or there are living loved ones that they want to protect in spirit – sometimes both. I know that when people die often a baby will be born into the family to send back a similar energy of a family member who passed on. The person who died is often pivotal in bringing that baby to fruition. If I had a dollar for every reading I’ve done where a baby was born into a family that had issues with fertility or the husband already had a vasectomy, I could take a trip to Paris, France. When babies are named after a deceased family member, that family member feels bound to the baby as though it were their own. Your loved ones will be there to greet you, especially people you had unfinished business with.

QI don’t know what to write without sounding pathetic. I’ve reached the ripe old age of 70 and am still without friends (I have acquaintances – one or two). I have tried to help myself by applying for jobs as a community carer – but I think my age is blocking this one. Financially, I’m really struggling. Sometimes the loneliness is overwhelming. Is there any significant light at the end of this very, long and lonely tunnel?

RK, via email.

ARK, there are a lot of single mums who need help with their kids while they work – why not be a grandma + nanny = granny? You can make a little money and enjoy being around children who will help to keep you young. Maybe even get certified, it will make you a more valuable carer. Don’t give up on life, there are children out there who need hug-giving.

I’m divorced after 25 years of marriage but after four long years and numerous attempts at property settlement with my ex-husband, I just need things to be finalised. Do you see this happening or will we be going to trial? I’m very concerned about the cost. I need to keep the house as it’s also my workplace, but he is just so unreasonable.

Allison, via email.

AAllison, I’m sorry you’re going through such a rough time. Your ex is angry that he failed – that’s how he sees it – and misery loves company. I know this is a tall order but you have to appeal to the part of him that used to be your friend and mate. Talk to him about how you don’t regret your life together and how you want him to be happy. It’s better for the two of you to reap the rewards you worked for rather than turning your money over to lawyers. I don’t see you going to trial, he’s just dragging it out.