ALLISON DUBOIS
LOVED ONES WILL BE THERE WHEN YOU’RE READY, SAYS ALLISON
QI lost my husband six years ago in a car accident and it’s taken me a long time to come to terms with his death. Recently, I’ve met a wonderful man and feel like I’m beginning to find happiness again, however I feel a bit disloyal to my husband. It would really put my mind at rest to know if he gives his blessing for my new relationship.
Yvonne, via email.
AYvonne, don’t feel disloyal to your husband, he knows you carry him in your heart still. The way deceased spouses look at you moving on is as though they’re lending you to a friend to dance with at a party. It’s a temporary lending until you’re in their arms again. He’d want you to be happy, to find joy in the sunshine of life. So, go, be happy and know that your husband will be there when you’re ready meet again.
QAn elderly family friend passed away seven years ago from heart problems. My sister and I had been trying to contact him by phone as he lives in another city and initially thought he might have been on holiday as he hadn’t returned our calls.
Eventually we found out from his goddaughter that he had been in hospital for three weeks after a heart attack and was getting better, but then died. We were so upset that he died alone as she didn’t tell any of his friends who could have visited him and she only went to the hospital a couple of times. Does he know we really cared about him and miss him?
Susie, via email.
ASusie, I guess sometimes godchildren/family members aren’t always all they are cracked up to be. It’s too bad she didn’t take the time to afford your friend some visitors in the hospital.
After your friend passed away, he was able to hear all the thoughts from people who cared about him. He knows that you think about him, you wrote to me didn’t you? Talk about above and beyond! Each time you focus energy on letting someone who died know that you care and miss them, they come along for the ride to see what you did for them. So, he saw the message that you sent to me for him. As far as him being alone, they’re never alone. Familiar faces from the other side are all around the dying waiting for them to pass, and the dying can sense their deceased loved ones there.
QMy parents always argued a lot, but when my mother got sick and died in her early 70s, my father was devastated. A few months later, he was diagnosed with advanced cancer and died within six months. Can you tell me if they’re together again now and if they’re happy?
Anne, via email.
AAnne, a lot of couples argue, that doesn’t mean that they don’t love each other. Some couples do it for sport. I’ve brought people through who talk about the passionate relationship they had with their spouse. Sometimes, passionate people fight, but the making up is great! Couples whose souls are intertwined often pass in close proximity. I have no doubt that your dad wanted to be with his love. Of course your parents would want to be together. They get to go back to when they fell in love, back to their youth.