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YOU NEED TO FEEL SAFE IN YOUR OWN HOME, AND YOU’RE NEVER TOO OLD FOR FRIDAY DRINKS, SAYS NENE.
QOne of my neighbours had a break-in a couple of months ago, and since then I’ve had a lot of trouble sleeping. I live on my own and make sure my house is properly locked at night, but I can’t put the thought out of my mind that there may be people prowling around outside. I know I can’t carry on like this and I need to get a grip, but I don’t know how to put my mind at rest. Do you have any suggestions, please? EDWINA, VIA EMAIL.
AI understand why you are nervous but it’s unlikely the perpetrator would return to the scene of the crime. He/she would know neighbours have been alerted. Make sure you have double bolts on your doors and windows. Talk to the neighbours and set up a neighbourhood watch. Report any suspicious people hanging around the apartments. Knowing you have proper locks should put your mind at rest. And it’s common knowledge that the culprit will move on to more vulnerable buildings. I’m not sure if your apartment block allows animals – a dog could make you feel safe. Losing sleep over the break-in is understandable but don’t let it in ruin your life. You can also check with the local police to see if they have any suggestions about keeping your apartment safe.
QI’m in my mid-50s and recently started a new job, which I really like. Things have been going well, but I’ve noticed that the rest of the team seem to go off to the pub on Fridays and they don’t invite me. I am a lot older than most of them, except for the boss (who doesn’t go to the pub), but I really feel left out. Do you think I should make hints that I’d like to be invited along? KAREN, VIA EMAIL.
AForget the hints – speak up – ‘I know I’m a golden oldie, but I would love to join you at the pub on Fridays!’ They probably don’t realise that you would enjoy their company after work hours. Tell them that you feel left out and I’m sure they will extend an invitation to you to join the pub get-togethers. Age is irrelevant. You all work together, probably have a lot in common, and a drink after work is something you would like to be included in.
QI know you are an animal lover so I’m hoping you can give me some advice. I recently had to have my 15-year-old terrier put to sleep as he had cancer and was in a lot of pain. I would dearly love to get another pet but I’m 78, and some people are saying I’m too old and shouldn’t get another dog in case it outlives me, or if I have to go into a retirement village or nursing home. Am I too old to adopt? MAUREEN, VIA EMAIL.
AIt’s an understatement that I am an animal lover. I’d be off getting a new puppy without considering all the circumstances. I need to be sensible though, and so do you. Age is not on your side. I know how you must miss your little terrier. I lost my cat Tiger recently and found a rescue cat that needed a good home. I have friends on standby if something happens to me. I also have two elderly dogs. But there are lots of old dogs that need a home. You will have companionship, the dog will have companionship, and you’ll both be happy. Also, put the word out that you would be happy to babysit a dog whose parents want to go on holiday? The RSPCA has old dogs needing a home. There are also animals in shelters to foster. Foster care helps dogs with the confidence they need so they are ready for a forever family.