COMMUNICATION IS KEY TO GETTING WHAT YOU WANT FROM ANY SITUATION, SAYS NENE
QI’m 34 and have been married for four years and my partner has now begun to pressure me about starting a family. The thing is, now it’s come to the crunch, I’m not sure if I really want to have a baby. I feel really bad as I have always thought I’d want to have kids but now I realise I like my life how it is. I haven’t told my husband how I feel as I’m afraid he will leave me. What can I do? SARAH, VIA EMAIL.
AYour marriage sounds shaky. Of course you need to talk to your husband about how you feel. The fact that he might leave you when you broach the subject of children is a worry. It needs to be discussed as your husband wants to start a family. I can’t predict the outcome but if your husband does threaten to leave, you may be better off without him. Don’t let it drag on. It will cause problems. You are not keen to start a family and he has to accept this.
QI share a house with another girlfriend and we get along great but recently she moved another friend who she met overseas into our spare room. She said it would just be for three weeks but it’s now turned into five and the friend is not showing signs of moving on. I wouldn’t mind but she is not paying any rent or contributing to bills and thinks if she buys the odd bottle of wine that will cover it. How can I get my girlfriend to take this seriously and get her new friend to pay her way? JEN, VIA EMAIL.
AYou need to talk to your girlfriend. Two’s company, three’s a crowd. Her overseas friend has outstayed her welcome. She needs to start putting in money towards the bills or move on. If you are not happy with the arrangement, you must speak up. Respond rather than react. The situation is unfair and the friend offering the odd bottle of wine is not good enough. You are out of pocket and your girlfriend needs to balance the books.
QMy husband and I went on an overseas holiday recently and when we got back we found someone had tried to break into our house. They had only tampered with the back gate, which was a bit damaged, but they must have given up as it’s quite strong and secure. The thing is, now my husband has said he doesn’t want to go away any more in case it happens again. I love travelling, whether in Australia or overseas, and I don’t want something like this to hold us back. How can I convince him it’s unlikely to happen again? TINA, VIA EMAIL.
AThe good news is that no-one was able to break in. Obviously your house is secure. For all you know, it could have been kids. It would be a pity to stop your travelling because of one small incident. Have a security company come in and install all the necessary equipment to protect your property. You are right. The offenders are unlikely to come back as they didn’t get past the back gate. There is no logic to giving up travel just because you may be broken into – it could happen when you are at the supermarket. My point is, get on with your life, enjoy the travel and leave your house secure. Your husband needs to relax.