WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES, BUT WE MUST TRY TO STAY POSITIVE
QI’ve been struggling with my mental health for the past 10 years. Things seem to be moving in the right direction but I’m hesitant. I know I need to push myself, but it’s hard. Do you see things continuing in the right direction for me or staying where I am?
Fiona, via email.
AFiona, when we hesitate, we hold ourselves back. Even if you push yourself and make a mistake, that’s OK, we learn from our mistakes. We’ve all made them, it’s how you move on from your mistakes that builds character. This year, 2019, is a 3 year in numerology, we’ll all be challenged by outside forces and you have a choice. You
can either construct or destruct. Continue to be constructive in your life, stay positive and meet life’s challenges with humour and charm and you’ll be just fine.
QMy beautiful, much-loved 35-yearold boy Daniel, took his own life on January 7, 2019, and my younger son was the one that found him. My heart is completely broken and I just need to know that Daniel is OK. I do feel him a lot.
Teresa, via email.
ATeresa, I’m so sorry for the recent loss of your son. People who pass from suicide don’t take their emotional or chemical imbalances with them.
I thought you might need to hear that. Your son has clarity now and a sense of peace. He sees the toll that his actions took on you and his little brother. With his passing being so recent, I have no doubt his presence around you is strong.
You and your younger son could benefit from a grief support group. You can’t heal alone. It helps to surround yourself with people who truly understand your pain because most people won’t. Unless someone’s lost a close family member to suicide, the level of pain that you’ve experienced is something that others can only try to fathom.
When you lose a loved one to suicide, your feelings are conflicted because part of you is mad at them for taking their life. It’s hard to reconcile missing your son with feeling angry that you weren’t even consulted or warned that he was thinking of doing something so drastic and final. A grief support group will help you to understand that your son didn’t die because you didn’t love him enough or that he didn’t feel loved.
Your younger son needs the grief support group as much as you do. If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for him.
QMy mum passed away in 2017. I’m just wondering if she’s still with me, guiding me. I’ve felt a bit lost and need some direction. I’m trying to find my way. I’m sick of feeling like this.
Lisa, via email.
ALisa, your mum sees you every day. You’re part of your mother’s “heaven”. You’re one of the great loves of her life. She won’t leave you, not ever. Where she is she gets to relive the day you were born, she can relive every one of your birthdays, Christmases and achievements that you had throughout your childhood. She also sees you now struggling to find direction.
When thoughts pop in your head of what you think your mum would want for you, that’s her whispering in your ear to try and guide you. You’re not leaving her in the past, she’s a part of you. She moves with you. Fulfil your destiny, find happiness and make her proud.