Don’t rush to see children grow up
PARENTS are putting too much pressure on their kids to grow up and should let them enjoy the innocence of childhood, a leading expert has declared.
Dr Justin Coulson warns “childhood is shrinking” and it’s vital families take time out to relieve expectations on youngsters to perform.
The father-of-six says excessive screen time and failing to properly discipline children were among other common parenting mistakes.
Dr Coulson said kids were often drowning under the expectations of their parents and others.
“Those years of carefree innocence are being crowded out with education agendas, personal development plans and fewer opportunities for play and exploration,’’ he said.
“As play has declined, kids have become more anxious and depressed.
“They lose control over their lives as we take over, dictate, drive and demand.
“Yet play, curiosity, slow and agenda-free development and the chance to pursue interests that align with personal strengths are some of the most important gifts we can give a child to truly experience childhood.”
Parents needed to show kids what was truly important in life.
“When our children see us, they do not need to be burdened with more work and study,” Dr Coulson said.
“They need us to fall on the floor, tickle, wrestle and laugh.
“As we give them back their childhood, they won’t seem to be so old so young.”
Dr Coulson’s new book, Ten Things Every Parent Needs to Know, answers the most common questions parents ask him and some they should but don’t. He said one of the biggest challenges was discipline and suggested parents followed the “three Es” of explain, empower and explore.
“You have to take the time to help children internalise what you are saying and understand it, otherwise you’ll have to keep yelling to get the job done,” Dr Coulson said.
Suzanne Shadbolt and husband Brad — parents to Caitlin, 13 and James, 11 — said teamwork was vital in any family.
“Parenting on the same page is definitely something you’ve got to agree on,’’ Ms Shadbolt said.