Not a fan of her fiancé

Gain a son

I don’t think anyone is ever exactly right for our kids. You’ll get used to him – and gain a son rather than losing your daughter!

Step back

Wish them well and step back. My own son-in-law and I don’t particularly see eye to eye, but he’s a good father who loves his kids, works hard, and is loyal to my daughter.

Get over it

You’re going to have to get over it, especially if they have kids together.

Walk away

It’s her choice and she has to live with him. Just be there for her if she realises he isn’t what she thinks he is. But keep your opinions to yourself. I know it’s hard, but for peace it’s best. Ignore him when he gets on his high horse and is annoying and if you have to, walk out of the room.

Give him time

Go to the wedding, smile and make it a happy day for your daughter. I’m sure she knows how you feel but we can’t choose our children’s partners and, in time, you may find that he isn’t so bad, particularly if he treats your daughter well.

See what she sees

I had trouble liking someone years ago and forced myself to find something I liked. I could only find shoes, but that one little thing helped me be more receptive and over time that frostiness went away. Try inviting them over for a BBQ, or a game of Yahtzee or something, to see what you’re daughter sees in him. You might find you start to like him.

He might change

If your daughter is happy then you should be happy for her. You don’t have to live with him and, who knows, he might change once married.

Generation gap

Sounds like a generation gap to me. He hasn’t had his knocks yet and can be quite arrogant. Try to find some common ground, even if it’s only for the wellbeing of your daughter.

What do I do?

Her lesson to learn

If she is happy and doesn’t have a problem that’s all that matters. Does he treat her well? That’s the main thing. If he really is as bad as you think, she will eventually work that out herself. It’s her life and her lesson to learn. All you can do is continue to love and support her.

Be a good mum

Remain warm, kind and generous of spirit to your future son-in-law and he may just grow on you. If he doesn’t, at least you will still be a good mum to your daughter.

Her life

Take a deep breath and let her be. There is nothing you can do. It’s her life and her choice. Anything you try to do runs the risk of destroying your relationship with her.