BEAT THE FEAR

Don’t be scared of a change or success, Cara Jenkin writes

FEAR is holding back too many workers, and it is not a bully colleague or a dangerous workplace that is to blame.

Human behaviour expert Dr John Demartini says many workers are influenced and impeded by subtle fears, with four common areas preventing them from success.

“The difference between you doing what you love and becoming a master of your life and career, and you not, is your ability to identify your fears and have a strategy to break through them – or, at least wisely utilise them,” he says. “Fear is an assumption that you are about to experience more pain than pleasure, more loss than gain, or more negative than positive – all of which are illusions since life’s experiences always provide a balance.”

NOT KNOWING ENOUGH

A mental fear can immobilise people and keep them from doing what they truly love, Demartini says.

It can range from applying for a promotion to making a career change.

“You have the capacity to do whatever you dream of doing, regardless of the level you’re at now,” he says.

“You attract opportunities according to your level of knowing.”

Enrol in a course, find a mentor or apply for a new role regardless and seek feedback if unsuccessful.

FAILURE

Potential embarrassment and other consequences of failure often stop workers from trying but Demartini says success may not come without failure.

“Shameful failure and proud success occur in equal measure, and act as feedback loops to help you refine your daily actions,” he says.

“Throughout your life you’ll perceive yourself to be a success and failure. Neither of them have to disempower you or distract you from your highest mission.”

LOSS OF MONEY

“You may fear that if you go out and do what you truly love, you won’t make enough money,” he says.

“However, if you love something and are committed to doing what it takes to achieve it – and you also truly value money, follow the financial laws of success and save – you can build wealth doing what you love.”

SOCIAL REJECTION

What others think is a big driver for most people but Demartini says they should only feel accountable to themselves. “Some people are not doing what they love because they’re afraid people will reject them,” he says.

“Both acceptance and rejection consistently occur throughout your whole life, and the more extraordinary and empowered you become, the more you will receive of both.

“People come and go, they’re transient, but you’re with yourself for the whole journey.

“Never sacrifice the eternal for the transient – embrace both sides of your social life equally.”