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RAISING A BABY BEHIND BARS

The prison program changing lives.

- By Caitlin Keating

“It’s beautiful to see the interactio­n between Karen and Aryanna” —Sonja Alley, correction­al unit supervisor

I t’s 7.30 AM on a rainy weekday morning, and Karen Garcia is chasing her rambunctio­us 2-yearold daughter Aryanna down the hallway and into the bathroom to brush her teeth. Minutes later, the toddler’s picking out her own outfit for the day and clambering into her stroller for the short ride to daycare. “For a moment everything seems normal,” says Garcia, 40. “And then I’m reminded where I am because there are barbed-wire fences everywhere.”

Since November 2015, Garcia’s “normal” has been raising her daughter behind those tall fences at the Washington Correction­s Center for Women in Gig Harbor, Washington—one of only 11 states in the US that offers a prison nursery to its inmates with young children. Under the program, which was founded in 1999, women in the minimum-security facility with sentences up to 30 months can apply to keep their children with them until they’re released. Inmates accepted into the program, called the Residentia­l Parenting Program at WCCW, also receive drug treatment and therapy, and are taught everything from how to prepare healthy meals and change diapers to bathtime safety. The goal is to send them back to society with the skills to be a good parent. “This program has saved my life,” says Garcia, who was seven months pregnant with Aryanna when she was arrested in October 2015 and was later found guilty of selling methamphet­amine and a firearm. “It’s made me into a mother I never could have been if I were out on the streets.” Says Sonja Alley, the correction­al-unit supervisor for the program: “Karen’s done tremendous work on herself and addressing the issues that brought her here. A lot of these women have lost everything,

so the struggle is really creating an entirely new sober life when they get out.”

A sober, stable life is something Garcia has only dreamed of. Raised in Enumclaw, Washington, she grew up with a single mum who worked as a medical assistant. At 18, she gave birth to a son, Boston, and by the time she was 22, the pressures of holding down two jobs and the death of her grandfathe­r led her to abuse alcohol and try methamphet­amine for the first time. “Everything went downhill from there,” says Garcia. She went to prison twice for identity theft— serving three years and two years respective­ly—while Boston was sent to live in Renton, Washington, with his dad, who got full custody. “I remember Boston telling me, ‘Mom, high or not high, all I’ve ever wanted was a mom. All I want is just you being in my life,’ ” recalls Garcia. “I had put him through so much pain and heartbreak.”

Which is why, following her arrest and conviction, she vowed things would be different this time around. “I didn’t want to abandon my daughter like I did my son so many years ago,” she says. “I wasn’t willing to do that again.”

It was in October 2015 that Garcia first heard about the Residentia­l Parenting program. Although she had been sentenced to 60 months—with 20 of those months to be waived as long as she maintained good behaviour—she decided to apply anyway. “The only thing I could do was fight for my daughter,” says Garcia, who gave birth on Feb. 2, 2016. “I could fight to get into the program. I just wasn’t going to take no for an answer.” She wrote to prison officials pleading her case, and when she found out she’d been accepted, she says, it was “a feeling I’ll never forget ... My mornings are better here than they would be if I was home. My daughter doesn’t see any of the things that I’ve seen before I got here. She gets to wake

—Karen Garcia

up to a mother who loves her unconditio­nally. This is my second—and only—chance.”

Now sober for almost three years, Garcia is determined to make the most of her future—and Aryanna’s. “It was really hard for me at first,” she admits. “I had done drugs every single day, [so] I was an emotional wreck. My daughter cried, and I would freak out. I had to figure out what this different life was all about.”

Learning how to manage her feelings and cope with adversity has also given Garcia the emotional foundation she needs to care for her daughter—who was diagnosed with celiac disease last year. “She was in a lot of pain all the time—it was a once-a-month trip to the ER,” recalls Garcia. “Everything about my old life just vanished ... Nothing else mattered to me anymore, other than what my daughter was feeling and taking away her pain.”

As part of the prison’s Trades Related Apprentice­ship Coaching program, Garcia has been learning carpentry skills and hopes to secure a well-paid job with labour-union benefits pending her release on Feb. 23, 2019—just one day before her 41st birthday. “I’m going to be able to get out, be a mom and have a career,” she says.

She plans to move in with her uncle in Auburn, where she can get a fresh start, and hopes to rebuild her relationsh­ip with Boston, now 23, who lives in Tacoma and is studying to become a pastor. The two talk regularly, and he has visited her and Aryanna in prison several times. “If I don’t go back to anything I used to do,” says Garcia, “I feel like our relationsh­ip is going to be amazing. He’s a very forgiving and understand­ing, loving boy.”

Garcia is also looking forward to reuniting with husband Jason Garcia, whom she married on July 5, 2014. Currently serving 87 months at Monroe Correction­al Complex in Monroe, on several charges—including unlawful possession of a firearm—he has a tentative release date of April 30, 2019. Although he and Aryanna have never met, she calls him “Daddy” during their monthly phone calls.

Those who know Garcia both inside and outside the concrete walls have no doubt that she’ll succeed. “This program has saved her life,” says Garcia’s mum, Cheryl Thoenes, 62, who now lives in Spanaway, close enough so she can take Aryanna home with her every other weekend for some quality grandma time.

“Her whole life revolves around that little girl,” Thoenes adds. “She’s become a fierce mother and the woman that I always wanted her to be. It’s a miracle.”

WCCW’S Alley agrees. “Seeing the change in these women is the best part,” she says. “It’s rewarding to see them recognise their faults and, in turn, become better mothers.”

For now, Garcia says she is simply focused on raising her daughter and getting ready for life on the outside. “I’ve opened my eyes and changed my life around,” she says. “I’m not a bad person, but I made bad choices. Your past doesn’t have to define you, and it doesn’t define your future.”

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“There is the life I lived before my daughter,” says Garcia, “and the life I live now. This one is bright and promising.” “She loves grabbing the phone from me and talking to her grandma— or pretending to!” says Garcia. “We call her every day out on the yard.”
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