‘I’M TRYING FOR A BABY AT 45’
Bianca Dye’s last chance at motherhood
She’s been open about her fertility struggles for years, but radio personality Bianca Dye has come to a realisation at age 45. She’s going to try for a child with her current partner Jay Sandtner. Six years ago she was in a relationship with a different man and suffered two miscarriages after going through IVF, but Dye is adamant that she will give it one more shot with her frozen eggs, in an attempt to bring life to a baby with her supportive partner.
“It’s terrifying, but my womb will hopefully be ready,” she tells Pete Timbs on the Who Are You podcast about IVF. “I’ll try again in the next three months.”
“I have endometriosis, so I’m on a heavy hormone that they put [women] on to shrink breast cancer. It’s giving me moods lately; I’ve been more of a basket case than I normally am. It’s not easy, but I’m on that to get my uterus and womb all nice and mushy so it can accept an embryo,” she explains. But Dye has not given up hope, saying she’s looked to other females in the spotlight who have gone on to produce healthy children.
“There are so many stories of women my age that can carry. Look at Tania Zaetta – she just had twins! And Sonia Kruger – she’s a big inspiration for me.”
The former Nova host reveals that she believes she might find success this time around and while she’s excited about the possibility of having her own child, she accepts the fate she will be dealt no matter which way it turns out.
“My eggs [I have] now would be crap. [But there are] eggs that I harvested from six years ago, so there’s a very good chance that one of them would take. It wouldn’t be using my fresh eggs now but hopefully my fresh womb will be nice and full.”
At the moment, the radio producer and her partner Sandtner co-raise his young daughter Madison with her mother, who Dye describes as “beautiful”.
“In hindsight, I’ve let go now. I’m not holding on to it, I’ve got a beautiful little family – if none of these eggs take, I’ve actually made peace with it,” she admits.“it’s not an easy thing to do, but a lot of women have to do it, but I don’t want to have regrets. I want to be able to say I put all the eggs in, none of them worked for, whatever – the universe did not choose me to be a mother to my own child but I’m going to mother [or be] a guardian for Maddie.”
Asked if she thinks working on her 24-year radio and media career hindered her chance to have children earlier, Dye explains it was all about timing. “I’m not going to say I put my career first, but I guess I just had that kind of personality where I went where the work was and thus it was, you’ve got to meet someone, you’ve got to fall in love, work out if you want kids, and that takes time.”
“I don’t want to have any regrets”