This is a follow-up from the last edition where we looked at ‘how to treat your girlfriend.’
Never appreciate a man for his money or material possessions. Respect him as a person whom you love. Genuineness builds trust. Let your true self come from the heart and show who you really are by being sincere.
The things I am going to say in this week’s column can be equally applied to last edition’s topic because not everything can be said in one article. Having a boyfriend is fun and can be very exciting if you work on it with enthusiasm. Many girls enjoy having a boyfriend and they can spend time talking about guys and what they want in a guy. The same qualities we talked about last week are what we will look at this week. Every relationship must be based on respect. If you don’t learn to respect your boyfriend, you will not learn to respect your husband in future. Among a man’s top four needs in a relationship is Respect. The girl must honour him in such a way that he feels appreciated for who he is not for what he can give. Never appreciate a man for his money or material possessions. Respect him as a person whom you love.
Genuineness builds trust. Let your true self come from the heart and show who you really are by being sincere. Never run him down in public or in private. If there is something you don’t like about his manners, style or habits, don’t try to correct him in public as this may be embarrassing and your attitude may cause him to retaliate. Don’t try to impress your friends or family by trying to control him. Be honest in everything you do. In this age of complex yet simple communication tools, one’s honesty is always tested. Don’t flirt with other boys or men while you are in a relationship. It reveals your lack of seriousness and the prospects of you being a balanced lover become slim. Stay committed to one man. Never entertain multiple relationships.
Integrity in a woman includes many things such as having a modest public appearance which does not bring embarrassment to your partner. The way you dress says a lot about your character. Never expose yourself as that may send a wrong message to other men. Have dignity and poise and composure. Be proud to be seen with your boyfriend in public. Treat him with sincere pride. Don’t expose his weaknesses to your friends and make fun of him. True love does not do that. Avoid enticing him or seducing him to go to bed with you so that he doesn’t treat you like a sex object. Love him dearly and be affectionate. You may have to teach him how to be affectionate so be gentle and patient with him. Don’t complain about everything and try to change him. You can only change yourself. Trying to change him may be very frustrating and may end the relationship.
Communication is a vital link in your relationship so you need to work on it creatively. Men and women often say the same thing but mean different things. Learn how men communicate and allow him into your world of thoughts. Avoid secrecy because that will damage your relationship.