On back love and challenging the ‘it will end in tears complex’

I recently came across amusing comments on social media over a lovey-dovey post by a certain controversial well-known couple, who took their so-called detractors by surprise because many bo-marata-helele seemingly thought that their union was doomed. Ha! Sometimes, it is good to ‘confuse the enemy’ gore ba sale ba rototse matlho gone hoo!

I remember how last year some people on

Twitter and Facebook had invested emotions into the relationship between Babes Wodumo and Mapintsha but were left with egg on their face when the two got back together in a legendary back love that left many reeling in shock.

The above-mentioned scenario is similar because I understand that some people felt

“betrayed” that the couple have seemingly rekindled their affair. This because recently, the couple’s private business was public fodder as claims of abuse and infidelity between them flew thick and fast, and their fall-out was so bad that it was widely believed that they were headed for a permanent break-up. It is obvious that mongwe wa bone o tswa

go ithapedisetsa back love. It’s most likely the man. I can imagine him waking up early to prepare breakfast in bed, and serenading his lady love with endless compliments, in between murmuring sweet nothings to her and professing his undying love at every turn. Kana borre fa ba ithapedisa back love le fa mmabo a ka gotlhola hela o kgamilwe ke mathe, motho wa teng o tla bo a tlola a re, ‘Go rileng baby, ke go ise ngakeng?’ Khi!

While some people would never get back with an ex for various reasons, many other people have no problem with ‘back love’.

Relationships aren’t always rainbow and sunshine, and problems will often arise in unions. However, as tough as it might be, some people tend to find a way around their differences, particularly if they are still in love and/or highly value their relationship.

Gape tota hela you cannot fight against the force of two people who have exchanged bodily fluids and have a bond; some people are soulmates. I have also heard that makeup sex is very powerful and leads to earth shattering and toe-curling orgasms… ne ke tlotlelwa!

This cycle of fight and make up might seem very dysfunctional and toxic, but it is common. Di relationship tse dingwe kana

e ka re tsa makutwane. That’s why when in many cases when couples fight, most people are hesitant to get involved because once the couple gets back together, they will accuse the same person/people who intervened of wanting to break them up. A couple can fight like mad, insult one another and vow that it’s over for good. Owaai, kae? Kamoso ba tsoga ba kaname mmogo ba ntshana ditshoka mo ditsebeng!

Besides, when two people fight, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t love each other anymore.

Positive outcomes can emanate from conflict, if both parties believe that their relationship is worth fighting for.

As tempting as it might be to throw in the towel when things don’t work out in a relationship or marriage, sometimes it’s fitting to fix things, even if it means compromising, and being humble and submissive. Some people often have “problems” in romantic love because of ego and pride. Ke bale ba bo: ‘O ka tsamaya a ipoka.’ Mme kana dilo tse go batla fa gongwe o ikobe, o itire sematlanyana!

It is also an attitude and mindset issue. Look, mjolo can show anyone flames, but instead of anticipating that ‘it will end in tears’ maybe we should challenge the narrative and prophesy positive outcomes by declaring that ‘it will end in happiness.’ Kgm!