On the controversies of “woman-towoman hate”

Some time ago, Berry Heart was “roasted” about a dress from her clothing range, which some people said was “expensive.” It’s not expensive; you’re just not the target market. Stay in your lane. Wena wa ikgaratlhelo just walk into the nearest fong kong store o reke mosese wa 200 o tswe mo dilong.

But moving along, I doubt the animosity was just about the dress. Considering the trolls, some people seem to be jealous of how she has turned over a new life and transform her life from drab to fab. Kana lehuha la

setswana le dingalo...

Funny enough, it’s often women who are ‘bitter’ towards other women, as evidenced by the many incidents of cyber-bullying, and abuse some women are subjected to in workplaces and political or social circles. The perpetuators are often primitive with low EQ and IQ levels, so kooteng bone ba ipona ba siame hela.

In a recent interview with The Midweek

Sun, Berry Heart pointed out that some Batswana women don’t progress or become successful because they are malicious and snarky towards other women, particularly those who are doing well, instead of being inspired by them. True. God will never bless you o le mowa o maswe. E bile bone ba o ba sotlang, o ba suhaletsa botshelo, o batla go ba senyetsa di relationship, o batla go ba senyetsa tiro kana o ba demoralise mo hustle tsa bone, Modimo o tlile go ba segofatsa go feta, wena a bo o sala o boshame hoo e ka re o koko e tshetswe metsi.

There are many women who applaud, elevate and support other women but then you get the ridiculous “types” who habitually trash other women. I recall Beyonce (yes, I am a “member” of the Beehive, hi!) once said it’s important for women to remember that in this life, there is enough room for everyone to shine. Ditto. We are all blessed and gifted differently. Beyonce always features younger women and doesn’t get intimidated and threatened by them nor look at other women

with the attitude of: “yo o ka nkgaisa” or “o tloga a ntseela tiro,” or “o tloga a ntseela monna”. Unlike some women with inferiority complexes who see other women as “competition.” Fa ba ka re motho ‘O ithaya a re...’ E bile fa ba gaketse bo Ausi, ba kgona go dira gang, ba target mosadi o mongwe, o bona hela gore le go mo lowa ba ka mo lowa!

Generally, in career or vocation, women are often sabotaged on the basis of sexism and personal prejudice. And when a woman excels, there are often vilifying stories that she might have slept with someone, she might have bought her position, be related to so-and-so, be doing this or that, blah blah. Such vendettas are often spearheaded by other women. That’s why in workplaces or politics etc, some men use women to fight their battles, ba ba roma boloi. Baa itse gore basadi ba bangwe ke bo ‘meno masweu.’

It’s boggling how a woman can resent another woman, who has the same anatomy as herself, sometimes for no valid reason. I guess it’s “one of those things” that will never make sense, right?

But when all is said and done, instead of trying to drag other women down to your level, you should strive to elevate. Tota hela,

whether you are a man or a woman, you don’t need to put another person down to feel better about yourself. People are out there working hard to better themselves and improve their lives. Le wena work hard to fight lehuma le moroto oo yellow…Nwang metsi!