BOOK TITLE: Wisdom for singles AUTHOR: Thuso Gaongalelwe AVAILABLE AT: One Request

Marriage is a God ordained institution that most single/unmarried people dream of entering, but how many are ready? We live in a society which often pressurises people into getting married, and makes those who are unmarried feel incomplete or lacking of something. But the author points that marriage should be a blessing from God, and is not necessarily “the answer” to all problems, as some people might think. He encourages discernment in choosing a partner, and taking time to learn about oneself and go full circle in self-love and appreciation before taking the step towards marriage. Gaongalelwe says while waiting for a partner, it is best to work on yourself and your dreams, and focus on being complete, instead of looking for someone to complete you. Basically, he reiterates the importance of using the period of singleness to develop the attributes that you would want in a future spouse, and also work on achieving your ambitions and goals, developing your career, and improving your emotional and mental wellness, and spirituality.Author highlights that most people believe that marriage is a cure for their loneliness, but it is just a myth, he asserts. He emphasises that loneliness is lack of contentment in the heart, not the absence of companionship. He says the period of singleness should be embraced and one should invest in their personal development and growth, spiritual growth and achieve personal goals, because one’s success does not begin in marriage, and there should be no fear in soaring as a single person, noting, “marriage is not a business plan, do not wait for a partner to come and make you successful; get it rolling now, and yes, you can make it happen.” Don’t fall in love, as you might get hurt, but rather walk in love with your eyes and mind open; it’s sure safer that way. Purpose in life is bigger than marriage.While marriage is a noble institution, it is important to strive to leave a purposeful life even before marriage, adding that if your life has no purpose before marriage, you will be more frustrated in marriage. Touches on different issues: spirituality, sex, personal development and growth, conviction and the wisdom of choosing a good partner. **Are you an author with a book that you would like us to review, or a keen reader with a book review to share? Please email: keletso@ guardiansun.co.bw