THE QUEST FOR SELF DISCOVERY IN RELATIONSHIPS

Some few weeks back, I had a chat that centred on the issue of a romantic partner indicating that they want to take a break from a relationship. The discussion touched on whether there are prospects of the relationship getting on smoothly again after the break hence we will explore on this whole process.

Relationships are complex by nature and some are not able to clearly express themselves in these unions and have limited avenues for growth; situations which can lead to a complicated relationships and adverse mental health consequences. A break from a relationship if these circumstances are present will not be a bad decision. In fact, several studies have highlighted that taking a break is an amnesty and good venture into self-reflection. Often what is pondered on is fundamental questions like “who I am; what do I want to be.”

There is always a thinking that taking a break will help clear the mist and lead the relationship to optimal functioning back again. The break often provides a space to process feelings and thoughts as it is often difficult to do that objectively in a relationship.

Some individuals are in relationships largely due to fear of being alone; taking a break can thus help them to reflect on their fears and deal with them.

There are so many factors that leads to a decision of taking a break including that one is not in the right state of mind to be in a relationship and should thus work on self. Taking a break in relationships can be helpful as it aids individuals to become self-aware. Self-awareness is hugely significant as it facilitates individuals become more confident, peaceful and creative hence be “a good partner.” If there are problems within a relationship, couples should reflect intensely. A visit to a therapist and/ or counsellor can also help couples in this process.

In conclusion, a partner who undergoes self-reflection by taking a break means well for the relationship. However, we need to be mindful that a break can lead to break-up wherein both parties feel there is no common ground. This will be particularly good if the relationship was not really working. Partners should not be in a relationship for the sake of it.