TEENAGE SEX IS NOT FASHIONABLE!

Adolescents must be taught that having sex is not one of the many fashionable trends that come and go. Today, what are known as ‘boyfriend’ jeans are back in fashion. Those high waist baggy jeans that were popular in the 90s. And boy do these millennials rock them like they are new on the face of the earth. Another surprise come back is the Dr Mutton shoes. The ones made popular by a 90s South African pop group, Boom Shaka, Yes they are back. Many other trends from late 80s and 90s are making a big come back, and this goes to show that there is nothing new under the sun. But of great concern is that some adolescents are made to believe that sexual intercourse is just one of these many fashionable trends that they need to associate with. Nowadays its either you are doing it, or your friend is doing it, if you are not both doing it. Even those that had made personal pledges to wait are beginning to question their commitment to the honourable pledge. They are under tremendous pressure to do the deed to be acceptable in their circle of friends and be seen as fashionable. This is so disturbing. Ma2000, they have even given intercourse ‘code’ names to ensure that they completely shut out the older generation from the discussions, especially on social media. You might think that they are discussing a mere scene from an animation movie, when in fact they are sharing personal experiences about explicit sex. Do not underestimate them. Some of these youngsters know more than their seniors. From a tender age of about 13 some have sexual fetishes, fantasies and preferences. They are comfortable with everything that comes with intercourse, and are willing to try out more. You will definitely cringe when you hear them discuss these in public spaces. Plus they don’t care. They are not like older generations that used to respect every adult like their own parents. These can dare you to join in their ‘dirty’ discussions, or ask whether you envy them, should you in anyway show displeasure. Bana ba gompieno! Many have argued that this is as a result of lack of guidance and discipline from parents, while some believe that whether raised well in loving and supportive families, some teenagers still take the wayward way. Times have surely changed. But the fact is, children should remain children. Most adolescents lack the cognitive and emotional maturity to make wise choices regarding intercourse, and therefore must stay away from it. But the greatest concern is that most teenagers have or will engage in sexual intercourse and oral sex prior to graduation from secondary school, according to research. Batsadi le bolawa ke, “Nnya oo ke popae hela, gaa itse sepe.” Hey bassop!