Never give up on yourself- keep soldiering
Ihave a sister who brought two amazing souls to this earth. It is unfortunate that my sister is no longer breathing on the surface of the earth. One of the children’s father is still alive whilst the other’s we have never met. Immediately after my sister’s burial, the living father approached the family to propose to take his child under his custody and the family agreed since he has always been actively partaking on the welfare of his child. We had absolute no doubt that he will do a sterling job to give the daughter a good life that would inspire a bright future for the young one.
Our relationship with her father has total changed over the past eight years because he speaks arrogantly, bluntly and he is very aggressive. With that into consideration, we suspect that he might be possibly abusing his daughter. I personally bumped on her a couple of weeks ago at the mall and I could barely recognise her. It was until she came to greet me that I noticed her.
She has lost so much weight and her appearance exhibits a depressed soul. I tried to engage her but unfortunately, she exhibited a depressed face and was very uncomfortable to express herself.
I, have made attempts to engage her father but to my surprise I got some negative feedback from him and it was so toxic to conduct any conversation.
I have a very strong conviction that something wrong is happening at that man’s house. How do I access my niece and save
Dear Anonymous,
I am so sorry that your niece might be enduring the most excruciating season of her life. Nobody deserves to be ill-treated by anyone, even the father nor any family member. When you suspect something, you have every right to instigate an investigation to such an effect. But before we could include any intervening parties, I will suggest that you visit their homestead, and make sure that you tag along an uncle so that you ensure protection in the event things go south whilst there.
The visitation must be kind of a surprise one. You can pretend to have been on the neighbourhood and thought of greeting the father and the niece. It will give you a glimpse of their lifestyle since they will not be able to cover their tracks well on time. If indeed your suspicions are true, you can then engage the law enforcement agency to intervene. The niece can also be taken for counselling and that can also unpack the entire truth. You must also change your approach when dealing with her father. You must lure him to welcome you in their lives and avoid conflicts as much as possible. That is dangling a bait and there are great possibilities of a big catch. On the other hand, your niece might be having her personal challenges that my be affecting her wellbeing. It might not be pinned to her father so please be open-minded and do not jump to conclusions without finding facts and evidence.
Assumption are bearers of heart breaks and disappointments.
#ColoringSouls
Dear Coach
I have the love to write and I know it is my calling. I take time to analyse and learn life as it unfolds and I enjoy sharing my findings with mass readers. It is unfortunate that I never get feedback on what I produce and sometimes I meander like waves of a raging sea if whether I feed the people with something substantial or not.
I know I do not need validation on my commission but at times it really gets to me that I see no sign nor pat on my back to say “Hey Pal, you are doing a great job”. So it feels like my work is in vain.
How to I keep abreast with these turbulent emotions that destructs my purpose? I want to expand into visual podcasting but I am not sure if it is something that my target audience will follow since they are all reading my work but not reciprocating the feedback or comments. I want to keep this passion alive, how do I beat this hindering huddle? Yours,
Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
I know the feeling you are talking about.
It is a phase every person face in their different careers, not just writing. It is called a lapse and it happens when we forget the reason that prompted us to embark on the journey chosen.
We are our most important tool and there is no one who can drive us t o go and be what we aspire to be. Therefore, self- motivation and being staunched on the purpose must all derive from you. As for the podcast, just go ahead and do it because we never know what’s behind the closed doors until you open them. *Kealeboga Ronald Ngwigwa is a Life Coach, Author, Columnist, Team Builder and an Events Director who believes that emotions build an attitude which ultimately builds one’s character. Forward your enquiries to krcoloringsouls@ gmail.com or WhatsApp +26772522213
The niece can also be taken for counselling and that can also unpack the entire
truth