Know when to pick your battles
Recently, my brother-inlaw and his wife stayed in our home for six nights.
On the last night, my brotherin-law served ice cream to his wife in our living room. We never eat there and my spouse mentioned this to his brother’s family.
Shortly after that, his sister-inlaw went to bed without saying good night, though they were leaving early in the morning.
I’m not an early riser so didn’t get up to wish them safe travels. However, I was able to wish this to my brother-in-law before he went to bed. Did we do something wrong?
Adults generally don’t like to be “scolded” by other adults, so it depends on what tone of voice your husband used (though he could’ve brought in a tray to put under the icecream dishes).
But these two had spent enough time in your home to know your habits and preferences.
You can ignore the “incident” and see if there’s any apparent fallout over time.
Or, you can write to say you’re sorry you missed saying goodbye, and you look forward to seeing them again.
IF this one small event actually changes how they respond to you, there was already some in-law difficulty between you, which is a bigger issue than the ice cream.