Polyamory can work
Readers’ Commentary - The Case for Polyamory (“consensual and responsible non-monogamy”):
“Many people with sex drives at variance with their partner’s, find that ethical non-monogamy or polyamory is the right road for them.
“I’ve been practicing polyamory for over a decade.
“My current live-in partner has health problems and a low sex drive, but needs a lot of emotional and physical support.
“His other girlfriend is a blessing. I don’t have to be there for him every time he’s unwell, and can focus on my career as well as being a partner. “Meanwhile, I get my sexual frustrations out with a casual friends-with-benefits situation, so that I need never burden my beloved when he’s not feeling up to sex.
“Our other-significant-others also have partners of their own. Our loosely-knit network of friends and lovers provides a very supportive family in which we all can thrive.”
Ellie - Periodically, I receive such explanations of the benefits of having more than one acknowledged sexual partner within a group of three or more people.
They note that there are other solutions to living with a partner who can’t or won’t be sexual, beyond just accepting it, self-pleasuring, and making do with intimacy without actual sex.
I see such private arrangements as personal decisions that are none of my business.