Etiquette of gift giving
Christmas time is synonymous with the giving and receiving of gifts. Gifts help us acknowledge and express our appreciation for family members, friends, work colleagues and neighbours.
There are not too many universal rules for gift giving at Christmas time. Our individual preferences or traditions tend to guide our decisions each year. However, there are a few considerations to keep in mind:
The gifts we give should be a proportional reflection of the type of relationship shared by the giver and the receiver. As a helpful example, a casual neighbour would likely feel uncomfortable if presented with a very expensive piece of jewellery at Christmas, leading them to wonder what is expected of them in return. However, a box of chocolates, baked goods, holiday ornaments or even scented candles would be a nice and more appropriate gift for the nature of the relationship.
Comparatively, for those with whom we are quite familiar, a well-thought-out gift that reflects the receiver’s likes or interests nicely expresses the sentiment that they are well known and understood by the giver. It consistantly amazes me how an insignificant item to one person, such as a stamp, may be deeply valued by a collector. Or, a proficient crafter might prize an exotic tool, such as a hand-made wooden crochet hook, which wouldn’t necessarily mean as much to anyone else. It is always advisable to put oneself in the receiver’s shoes when planning out their gift.
For those of us with children on our list, it is important that gifts be ageappropriate and parent-approved. Gifts that are too advanced for the child will neither be appreciated nor understood. Additionally, gifts filled with small parts could be a choking hazard for younger siblings. Parents may also have strict ideals as to what is appropriate for their child, especially where screen is concerned.
When exchanging gifts, we should aim to spend an amount we are comfortable with. There is no need to match the monetary value of the gift one receives. Gift-exchange presents should be thoughtful and fit the theme of the exchange, for example books or movies, funny sweaters or recipe kits. The effort behind the gift bears more importance than the amount of money spent.
Personally, I do not think re-gifting should be encouraged. Even if family and friends are unable to get together in person this Christmas, the risk of offending a gifter is still present. After all, an unwanted gift doesn’t magically become so because you get rid of it.
To wrap up these few guidelines, let’s try to give gifts that create warm and positive memories. This year more than most, I am looking forward to the gift of connection - however that might be. I hope we can all have an enjoyable festive season, choosing and cherishing gifts we will give and receive.
Mable Stewart is a Lethbridge-based etiquette and image consultant. She can be contacted by email at helpfuletiquette@gmail.com.