How to support a loved one struggling with depression

Depression is a common mental health diagnosis among Albertans, which is why it is important to understand the impact of depression, as well as ways we can support loved ones through their diagnosis.

In order to effectively support loved ones with depression, it is important to recognize and understand the symptoms that go along with the diagnosis. Depression occurs when prolonged feelings of sadness, hopelessness and guilt become severe, last several weeks, and interfere with someone’s ability to function daily.

Negative feelings such as sadness, unworthiness, guilt, irritability and restlessness are symptoms of depression. Loss of energy and fatigue are symptoms of depression, as well as disturbances of sleeping and eating patterns. Loss of interest in activities, decreased ability to concentrate and thoughts of death or suicide are also symptoms of depression.

Understanding symptoms of depression is the first step in supporting a family member or friend with their depression diagnosis. One way to support someone is simply to just be there for them. Telling them they are important to you or asking them what you can do to help them is a great way to express to them that you care and they are valued.

Another way to support someone with depression is small gestures to let them know you care. Examples would be sending a card or flowers, cooking a meal, or leaving a voicemail. These gestures help your loved one feel connected to you. It is also important to avoid judging or criticizing your loved ones as their symptoms occur, as this could imply that their depression is a choice or self-inflicted.

Remaining supportive rather than judgmental will maintain closeness with your loved one. Another thing that you must avoid when supporting someone is the “tough-love” approach. By pushing boundaries or giving people the silent treatment, it only causes them to isolate themselves more, and increase feelings of guilt. Minimizing their pain is also a key aspect to avoid when trying to support someone.

Depression is not a weakness or character flaw, it is a medical diagnosis, and it is important to validate individuals’ feelings instead of minimizing them. Also, avoid giving advice to your loved ones, as it can make them feel inadequate and withdraw. Instead, ask them what you can do to help them, giving them the power and independence while still providing effective support to your loved one.

Another aspect to avoid is making comparisons of their depression to either yourself or others. Making comparisons could come across as minimizing their feelings further.

Learning and getting yourself educated about the impact of depression is another great way to provide support to your friends and family members. By educating yourself, you can avoid misunderstandings of depression, making it easier to empathize with someone who is struggling with depression.

Being patient with your loved ones is another way to offer support through their diagnosis. If you are patient with them, they know the struggles that they are facing as a result of their depression do not have to be faced alone, and that you will always be there for them.

These are just a few of many simple ways to validate and support people in our lives as they deal with and manage their depression. Once again, depression is a diagnosed medical condition, and it is treatable, and having people to help us along the way makes the treatment much more possible.