Know the signs of suicide risk

So often I hear individuals state they are afraid to talk to their family and friends about suicide in case it plants an idea in the mind of someone who is upset but not suicidal. I invest time in teaching some basics about how to handle this kind of situation.

1. Watch for warning signs. When there is a significant change in behaviour, pay attention. A person might be giving prized-possessions away, withdrawing from contact with friends and family or acting in ways that are different from their “normal” way of living.

2. Stay calm. It is important for you to de-escalate the situation and not make it worse.

3. Don’t assume anything. It is not wise to think that the person is just looking for attention or would be influenced negatively if you talk about suicide risk.

4. Ask good questions. If you receive a “yes” to the question “Are you feeling suicidal” move on to the next question. “Do you have a plan?” The more detailed the plan, the higher the risk.

5. Determine the legitimacy of the reply. Does the individual have the means and opportunity to follow through on the plan that they have described?

6. Be firm about your choice of options. Do not let the person convince you that getting help is unnecessary.

7. Contact individuals who are appropriately trained in dealing with suicide risk. You wouldn’t be able to perform surgery so why do you think that you can prevent suicide for someone who is determined?

8. Keep them safe until professional help is involved. You may need to ask police to help you take the person to the hospital. Don’t leave them alone. Remove things that they could impulsively use (pills, guns, ropes, sharp objects).

9. Provide clear detailed information about the client to the helping professionals.

10. Realize that you are not responsible for the other person’s feelings, actions or choices. It is not your fault if someone makes a poor choice and you definitely do not need to feel guilty.

Sometimes another person’s crisis affects our wellness. If you are having problems coping, sleeping or trying to deal with your own feelings, set up an appointment for yourself. Registered psychologists are trained to help problemsolve and are there for you when you are having problems. You cannot be there for other people if you are struggling!

Dr. Linda Hancock (www.LindaHancock.com) is the author of “Life is an adventure…every step of the way” and “Open for Business Success” is a Registered Psychologist who has a private practice in Medicine Hat, Alberta Canada. She can be reached at 403-5296877 or through email office@drlindahancock.com