Ask for that raise but keep your perspective
Dear Annie: I have 38 years of experience in the health-care industry. I love my job and coworkers. I’ve been at my present job for 11 years. My co-worker “Samantha” has been here for a little over two years. She is doing a great job. Our duties are comparable. I enjoy working with her and care for her very much.
But she is a very close friend of my employer and of my office manager, and some time ago, I learned that she is making the same hourly wage as I am. Her past experience was teaching preschool.
Needless to say, it has been hurtful. Over the past 10 years, I have turned down three job offers that would have paid me a higher wage. Retirement is three or four years away for me, but in the meantime, I would like to be treated fairly. Could you please offer me a solution or some advice? Undervalued
Dear Undervalued: Your experience speaks to the power of perspective. You went from being extremely satisfied to feeling cheated, not because of any change in your job or the way your employer treated you but because you gained knowledge about your co-worker’s salary. Still, I understand why you’re irritated.
If you haven’t got a raise in a while, now is the perfect time to request one. And if you don’t get the answer you’re looking for, make peace with the situation. Get back to your mantra. Keep your eyes on the horizon and that promising rainbow that is retirement. You’re fortunate to have a job you love enough to turn down higherpaying offers.
Dear Annie: So many people write to you about negativities in their lives. I wanted to write to you about a positive.
On Valentine’s Day, my wife and I celebrated our 47th wedding anniversary.
In the mid-1960s, I lost a son; then in January 1969, I lost my first wife. I found myself single, living in a rural area with five children. I was overwhelmed. In late 1969, I went on a blind date with my current wife. I told her I had five children, and she said, “So?” This was unlike the one or two other dates I had gone on before. I drove home saying to myself, “I’m going to marry that woman!” I feel blessed that my marriage has been full of love and respect. Larry G.
Dear Larry: Thank you very much for sharing your story. Life handed you some pretty sour lemons, and you made sweet lemonade. I am so happy for you and your wife and am sure that your son and first wife are smiling down from heaven.
What I love most about your letter is your gratitude. Stay thankful.