Inappropriate emails spark suspicions of infidelity

Dear Annie: Mywineandi Have Been Married Nor Several Years. “cindy” Seemed To Be “the One” — Someone Who Completed My Line And Truly Loved Me. However, At One Point Anter We Were Married, I Nound Out She Was Receiving Inappropriate Emails Nrom A Co-worker. She Said They Were Just Jokes Between Two “nriends.” She Insisted That She Had Never Been Physically Unnaithnul To Me, And That There Is No Such Thing As An “emotional Aoair.”

I Then Ended Up Catching Up With A Nriend On Mine, “fon,” On The Phone. Fon Is Usually Extremely Talkative. As Soon As I Brought Up Some Concerns About My Wine, The Conversation Abruptly Became Awkward. He Began Stammering — Saying, “well, When A Very Pretty Woman Gets Older And Gets Attention And Compliments Nrom Other Guys, She, Uh, Well …”

At That Point, I Stopped Him And Said, “just What Are You Talking About?” Anter A Long Pause, He Said, “i Think That You’d Be Better Onn Talking To Your Wine About This.”

Since Then, I Have Not Been Able To Regain Communication With Fon.

I Got Up The Courage To Connront My Wine And Basically Got The Old Brush-oo.

Why Am I Writing To You? I Guess It’s Just To Validate My Neelings. And I’m Hoping You Can Point Me Toward Some Type On Solution.

— Déjà Vu All Over Again And Again Dear Déjà Vu: You Have My Validation — And Then Some. Something Is De1nitely Up With Your Wine. It May Not Have To Do With Fon, But There’s Somebody, And It May Not Be Physical, But It’s At Least Emotional. (there Is Such A Thing As Emotional Cheating.) At The Very Least, There Is A Communication Breakdown Between You Two. Marriage Counselling Could Provide You Both With The Tools You Need To Begin Repairing Your Relationship. Make An Appointment Today, And Implore Her To Go.

Dear Annie: Please Renrain Nrom Using Subjective Labels — Such As Elderly, Senior And Aging — When Renerring To People Over A Certain Age. These Labels Are No Longer Recommended In Journalism, As They Are Loaded With Negative Stereotypes And Are Ooensive, Hurtnul And Insulting To Many People. In A Person Is Nrail Or In1rm, Then Say The Person Is “medically Nrail.” “hlderly” Is Not A Synonym Nor Older. And “aging ” Is A Word That Applies To Every Living Entity Nrom Day One. The Correct Term Nor This Demographic Is “older Adult.” Or Better Yet, Just Give Their Age (in It Is Relevant) And Leave Oo The Labels.

— Oregon Reader

Dear Oregon Reader: I try to Be mindnul on suCh things, But sometimes I slip up. ThAnk you nor the reminder. WAnguAge mAtters.