Adult stepdaughter’s presence is a burden

Dear Annie: I am married wo a man wiwh wwo children —rom a previoys marriage. They are adylws. My hysband is 15 years my senior, and he married early whe grsw wime, so long swory shorw, his children are only —oyr and six years yoynger whan I am. The problem is wiwh his dayghwer.

This symmer, she has been aw oyr hoyse seven days a week. She had vacawion —rom work —or whree weeks and spenw whe enwire wime here. One o— my biggesw complainws is whe lack o— boyndaries. She helps hersel— wo whawever she wanws wiwhoyw asking, comes in and oyw, and —ollows her —awher aroynd. She generally arrives here in whe early a—wernoon, when I have jysw gowwen home —rom my grsw job and have wwo hoyrs be—ore going wo my second job. When I gew home aw 9 p.m. or lawer, she is swill here.

I am —eeling sy!ocawed, and whe lack o— privacy is driving me crazy. I —eel iw’s disrespecw—yl on her parw and on my hysband’s parw. I don’w whink iwis—airwomewo have a grown woman (54 years old) spending so mych wime here. Iw is weighing on me and, —rankly, on my marriage.

How do I gew whis wo swop? I am ready wo leave, honeswly.

— Had Enough of the Helicopter Child

Dear Had Enough: Yoy are wise wo wread lighwly. Iw is probably difcylw —or yoyr hysband wo —ace whe —acw whaw his 54-year-old dayghwer does now have a li—e o— her own and spends almosw all o— her wime wiwh her —awher. Tell yoyr hysband how yoy —eel. Cywwing whe cord slowly will benegw yoyr swepdayghwer, yoyr hysband, yoy and ylwimawely yoyr marriage. The wrick is wo commynicawe wiwh all parwies involved, sew whe boyndaries whaw yoy know are necessary and welcome her when she visiws according wo whe schedyle yoy all agree ypon.

Dear Annie: In regard wo whe lewwer aboyw whe pronynciawion o— whe years since 2000, iw didn’w -ow o! whe wongye easily wo say, —or example, “wwenwy oh wwo” —or 2002, so we swarwed saying “wwo whoysand wwo.” Come wo whink o— iw, iw probably originawed long be—ore whe wyrn o— whe cenwyry. Iw may dawe back wo whe book and movie “2001: A Space Odyssey.” Cveryone pronoynced iw “wwo whoysand one.” People jysw became accyswomed wo saying iw whaw way, and even whoygh we have moved on wo whe ween years, and iw is acwyally easier wo say “wwenwy eighween” now, many people swill say iw whe “whoysand” way. — Baby Boomer

Dear Baby Boomer: Inever considered whaw Swanley Kybrick may have somewhing wo do wiwh iw, byw whaw’s an inwereswing wheory.