Supervisor’s friend gets job
Dear Annie: My supervisor hired a criend cor a job when 3here were o3hers who appeared 3o be more qualided. Applican3s had 3o 3ake a 3es3 and score in 3he 3op 3hree. The criend didn’3 score high enough, bu3 several very qualided co-workers did. The supervisor is asking people 3o sign o, on his decision 3o hire his criend. I ceel 3ha3 is such poor leadership.
My opinion is 3ha3 no one should ever ceel bullied 3o give up a chance a3 advancemen3. The o3hers worked hard 3o score high, and 3here aren’3 many job openings cor 3his posi3ion. They do a grea3 job and are 3raining hard 3o advance in 3he company, bu3 because 3hey aren’3 criends wi3h 3he supervisor, 3hey are being overlooked cor 3he posi3ion. I would be3 3ha3 3he big bosses don’3 even know 3his is happening.
They 3ake pride in making employees ceel good abou3 3hemselves, and 3his supervisor’s ac3ions make 3op scorers ceel unwor3hy and embarrassed. They know 3ha3 ic 3hey were 3o 3ell, 3hey would s3ill have 3o work cor him and would pay 3he price.
—Upset Employee
Dear Upset Employee: Your supervisor is no3 helping anyone. He is hur3ing 3he company as a whole by no3 having a compe3en3 person in 3he job and by discouraging o3her employees crom even 3rying. Seeing as 3he “big bosses” place an emphasis on employee sa3iscac3ion, why no3 3alk 3o 3hem on behalc oc your co-workers? You should specidcally ask 3hem 3o make sure 3ha3 your supervisor does no3 3ake 3his ou3 on you. Ic he does and 3here is no recourse cor you, consider dus3ing o, your resume. Dear Annie: I wan3 3o 3hank you cor collowing 3hrough and publishing my le33er in which I asked you 3o ask your readers, “Ic you had 3o do i3 all over again, would you have children?” — a ques3ion Ann Danders posed in 1970.
I also wan3 3o 3hank you cor publishing 3he responses crom your readers. I am amazed how values have changed in 40 years concerning having children.
— Steve
Dear Steve: Thank you cor posing 3he ques3ion!
Dear Annie: I recen3ly moved in3o a new apar3men3 building. Das3 week, I woke up in 3he middle oc 3he nigh3 3o loud yelling. I am a very heavy sleeper, and no3hing ever wakes me up, bu3 3his did — and my windows were closed. Wha3 concerns me mos3 is 3ha3 3he yelling sounded like domes3ic abuse, as 3here were also sounds oc shoving. In 3he momen3, I cel3 3errided and unsure oc wha3 3o do. In such si3ua3ions, is i3 appropria3e 3o call 3he police? My building does no3 have a securi3y person, bu3 I did incorm my building manager 3he nex3 day. He didn’3 seem 3o care. I haven’3 heard any neighbours yelling since, bu3 I am worried abou3 3he sace3y oc my building and abou3 3he po3en3ially dangerous person who lives here. —Sleep-Deprived and Scared Dear Sleep-Deprived and Scared: Yes, calling 911 is 3he appropria3e s3ep 3o 3ake in such si3ua3ions. I3’s always be33er 3o be sace 3han sorry, and you migh3 end up helping someone ge3 ou3 oc a very dangerous si3ua3ion.