Sex-education pioneer
CHANGING THE COURSE OF CURRICULA
Patricia Schiller, a lawyer, was volunteering at the Legal Aid Society in Washington in the late 1950s when she realized that litigation was not really what many of the warring couples she was assisting needed.
“As a lawyer, I’d just look for a divorce or settlement or separation,” she recalled years later. “And that was inadequate.”
What they needed, she thought, was counselling.
That insight led her to a striking career change: She went back to college, earned a master’s degree in clinical psychology and became a leading voice in sex education and counselling.
In 1967 she was the principal founder of the first accrediting organization in the United States for professionals in that field, the American Association of Sex Educators and Counselors (later expanded to the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists).
It was a time when thinking about sexuality and how (or whether) it should be taught and talked about was changing. Schiller not only helped bring order and professional standards to the business of sexuality counselling, she also helped shape sex-education curricula and broaden thinking on subjects like teenage pregnancy.
Among her proudest achievements was helping to establish the Webster School for pregnant girls in Washington in 1963, at a time when pregnant teenagers were generally forced out of school. Instead, the Webster School allowed them to continue their education and provided counselling and other support.
Schiller died on June 29 at her home in Palm Beach, Fla. She was 104.
Her son, Jonathan Schiller, announced the death.
Schiller had a lighthearted take on her mission of making it acceptable to talk about sex, and she was able to brush off friends’ inevitable jokes.
“They say, ‘Ha, ha, there’s the dirty old lady, there’s the sex maniac,’ ” she told The Washington Post in 1978. “But I don’t mind. I enjoy it.”
Jokes aside, she emphasized that sex was not an end in itself but part of a bigger picture.
“Sex is a function of being human,” she said. “When all there is between people, though, is sex, it’s time to split. We’re not sexual acrobats, learning all the steps and strokes. The goal is to become warmer, more caring.”
She was born Pearl Silverman on Oct. 27, 1913, in Brooklyn, N.Y. (Her son said he was not sure when or why “Pearl” became “Patricia,” though presumably it was in her childhood. “I have never known the ‘Pearl,’” he said.) Her father, Louis, was a pharmacist, and her mother, Gussie (Zuckerblatt) Silverman, was a homemaker.
Schiller said her parents wanted her to become a teacher because they thought it was a field where a woman would always be able to find a job. But she was more interested in law, graduating from Brooklyn Law School.
In 1943 she married Irving Schiller, a Washington lawyer, and after doing litigation and appellate work for the Wage Stabilization Board in the early 1950s she was volunteering at Legal Aid while raising their young children. Her revelation about her clients’ need for counselling sent her back to school at American University, where she received her master’s degree in 1960.
She fought for federal funding of the Webster School, which became a model project in an era when officials were re-examining how to deal with teenage pregnancies. She emphasized keeping the girls in school and also counselling everyone involved, which was unusual for the time.
“Working with the young men to help the pair grow as a family was crucial to her work,” her daughter, Louise Schiller, said by email. “Pregnant teens had babies, the boys fled at the news, and the young women entered a cycle of lack of education, lack of partner support and continuing poverty.”
Later in the 1960s Schiller would direct a governmentsponsored training program for principals, nurses, teachers and other school staff on how to teach and counsel about sexuality and family life. Outside the school setting, she was seeking to bring standards to the field of sexuality counselling, which in the mid-1960s was becoming trendy and was full of people with questionable credentials and motives.
“While all the communication is very good, many unqualified people have moved into the field to meet the new demand for advice,” she told The New York Times.
The result of her efforts was the American Association of Sex Educators and Counselors, which she founded on a shoestring with the help of several others.
“The offices were in one of my bedrooms at home, which was appropriate for a sex organization,” she once joked.
The association, which grew quickly, established standards for the training and credentialing of professionals in the field and began holding workshops and an annual conference. Schiller was its executive director until 1980.
She also consulted with universities on their curricula and conducted training programs. She was the author of numerous articles for professional journals and wrote several books. The first, “Creative Approach to Sex Education and Counseling,” was published in 1973. “The Sex Profession: What Sex Therapy Can Do” came out in 1981.
Schiller’s husband died in 2007. In addition to her children, she is survived by five grandsons and four greatgrandchildren.
In 2009, when she was in her 90s, Schiller published another book, Sex Questions Kids Ask — and How to Answer. In it, she reiterated the point she had made many times before: that sex education, done properly, is not just about the act.
“In addition to focusing on physical aspects of how one becomes a mother and a father,” she wrote, “sex education can teach children what it is that makes a mother or father sympathetic, understanding and respected. By learning how men and women and boys and girls relate to one another, we can learn to understand both ourselves and others.”